I have this idea that during mid-game if I keep talking and talking that it will come across as needy and attention seeking. I want to express myself and develop comfort, but I have this feeling like I'm the one doing all the investing and chasing her attention. What are ways that you guys have reframed this in your mind, so you can keep talking about yourself - telling stories of your childhood and life, etc. - and keep the frame that you are this awesome guy and she still has to win you over? Or is the mindset that by that point she has won me over and we are just getting to know each other? Do I have to keep up push-pull, cocky-funny, basically A2 stuff constantly?

For example, today in class, I told the girl, "I decided we aren't friends anymore." I thought this would be a push and plus I want to stay in the boyfriend/lover zone. She asked Why? and I just shrugged my shoulders and said I don't know. I feel like I could have responded to the why with something that escalated emotions, but that I didn't add anything to the convo. Then she said, "I'm not gonna cry about it." Everyday I see her, it's like I'm starting over at A1 and A2, rather than moving it forward. Can I move into comfort and stay in comfort?

I feel like I'm stuck in A2 because when I did a hand routine before and it moved towards kissing she covered her lips and backed up. So, now I'm like fuck, how do I move the interaction forward?

This part is about the inner game. I realize that when I was a little boy my mother was really depressed and so she didn't give me all the attention I wanted. I've worked a ton on my inner life, but I still feel like I'm attention seeking when I just keep talking and talking about me. And I realize I want to hide that and I'm afraid to come across as desperate because it will hurt my ego. I just have to get over that ego shit, but how should I reframe interactions in my mind for success?

Hey I made a video response to your question. I hope it answered your question.

If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqvYMR-IkAY[/youtube]

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