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So I am assuming that since there are girls into you, all you need to do is be better with women to get the better women. Let's accept the fact that you will probably never be the guy that has girls approaching him. Instead, you need to turn into the guy that girls won't want to let walk away.
I think that hits the nail right on the head there.
What do you feel makes you unattractive? you say you play lots of sports so i assume you've got an okay physique which is a big plus to be honest, so no worries there. Im sure you've identified what you dont like about yourself, so really you just need to find ways of overcoming those insecurities and making yourself as attractive as possible. I've struggled all my life with insecurities about my looks. I've always had a large forehead, so I always have a fringe to cover it. I've also got a weak jawline, so I grew a jawline beard and goatee, which does wonders for giving the effect of a strong jaw. I also have dark circles under my eyes which always makes me look tired, so I apply concealer on them and use other skin products and fake tan etc. So say you're worried you have big ears or a big nose, then when you're next at the hairdresser say you want a haircut that will take focus away from those things.
I'm not sure if the things I do actually make me more attractive, but they make me FEEL more attractive, and that goes a long way to improving my confidence. I know i'm going out being my best self physically.
And to address your question of 'does this stuff work', there isnt a yes or no answer to that really. Basically I would say on the whole, yes, it works. But it will take a long time to figure out what works for you. Theres a lot of different ways people do things and a lot of the time they contradict eachother. So basically you have to figure out what will work for you. If you really want to study pickup you'll have to sift through a lot of bullshit to find the gems. Some of the time you'll recognise straight away what wont work for you, and other times you'll have to test them in real life.
Also, I said before that you should identify what you dont like about yourself and overcome it, but also you need to identify everything you do like - physically and personally. Are you smart, are you funny, do you have good conversation skills etc. If you approach a girl feeling your most attractive and knowing that you are funny and interesting or whatever, that will show and she will react to it.
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