There's this girl at work that I like. She has shown some IOIs. Right now I'm without a hint of confidence. She's flirty but I don't know if I'm reading too much into it or if there's a genuine interest. I HAVE NO iDEA HOW TO APPROACH HER TO FIND OUT.

One day we stood outside and chatted and she kept looking at my lips. She started walking away and I told her oh so you don't even hug me. We have this playful thing where we joke that I'm her husband and coz I don't speak to her too much she always asks : did you divorce me? So we were talking and she gave me a hug and then looked at me - to be honest I think that was my opportunity to kiss-close - coz one of the other staff members walked in on us and he laughed knowingly and said to her: why didn't you just finish off the with the kiss? Even he could tell that she wanted to kiss me. We flirted the other day, and one of the staff members who heard most of it came to me afterward and said: jeez! that was some hectic flirting going on between the two of you - so although this should give me some sort of belief that there's interest from her side I'm struggling to be confident about it. At the moment I'm very unsure of myself and I now know I have even less game than what I initially believed. It would make me feel awesome to just hook up with someone else (since I recently got played stupid by my ex) and know that I'm still attractive and wanted. That would severely boost my non-existing confidence.

This girl seems like she loves to play hard to get, though. I no longer have the time or patience for silly games - all I want to know is if she's interested to hook up or not. Do I directly approach her in this and ask: do you wanna kiss me? Or should I take a different approach and if so what approach? I am clearly clueless and most of this gaming stuff just goes way over my head. Not to mention that I'm generally a very anti-social person who is now suddenly craving social interaction but has no idea how to do it.

Thanks in advance!

The best and wisest advice anyone can give you right now is to go out and meet other women that aren't your coworkers.

There's a saying that goes "Don't shit where you eat" and/or "Don't dip your pen in the company ink."

I know you want to pursue this because you feel like you have nothing else. You feel like this girl is your only chance at having SOMETHING. She's not. You only feel that way because you're too scared to go out and man up by meeting more women. You're scared of cold approaching. Well, feel the fear and do it anyway. Push yourself out of that comfort zone and start growing. SBAP

Now I'm going to do a 180 flip and tell you how to play with this fire. Who doesn't like playing with fire?

She's clearly into you and you're clearly into her. The only chance of rejection is if you wait too long and attraction fizzles out. The general rule of thumb is that if you don't sleep with a girl 2 weeks after meeting her, it ain't gonna happen.

Ask her out for drinks or something.

Or don't. You're better off fucking women who aren't coworkers.