Are you living your passions?

All great men have lived a life of passion.

The Mozarts, the Da Vincis, the Platos, the Buddhas, the Cesars and the Alexanders. Without exception, all great men of history have lived completely absorbed in a compelling vision – an insatiable passion that guided their every move, their every desire and their every thought.

What does it mean exactly to be absorbed in your passions?

A passion is not stringing the guitar for one hour every week. It’s spending days in melody, completely lost in what you are trying to create, so much so that you cannot hear the phone ringing, that you haven’t logged on to Facebook for days, that there is a party tonight you have no interest in going to, and that best of all – none of it actually even bothers you.

Let the text messages come in, let the phone ring off the hook, let the facebook notifications pile up. Let the pretty girls walk on by, let the parties come and go, let the new movies vanish into obscurity. None of it matters. That is what it means to be absorbed in your passions.

Where is your focus?

If your passion is Jiu Jitsu, why are you missing your class because you have a date? I see this stuff all the time, and have been guilty of it myself: to live a life of meaning, you must live a life of passion. To live a life of passion, nothing else must come first.

Passion is inherently attractive. Passion is what propels you. Passion is what fuels dreams and motivates you to strive for something greater. Of the multitude of men who come to me needing advice, I can always spot a pattern.

Weather your dating life is lacking, or you just feel depressed and disconnected. It’s almost always due to a lack of passion. This seems like paradoxical. How can doing something unrelated to women actually help you with your dating life? For that, I have no explanation. There’s a time when you have to seek out truth for yourself, so my challenge to you is this:

If you feel disconnected, if you feel like your life is lacking, or that a great change needs to be made, drop everything. Delete the phone number of every girl you are interested in. Turn your damn phone off. When you are out and about, socialize, but don’t take phone numbers. Just let things be as they are. Instead, develop your passions. If you have one and haven’t given it much time, be sure to schedule a minimum of an hour per day devoted solely to your passion.

If you do not have one, this is the exciting part; discover it. Learn to cook, learn to dance, learn to sing, learn to fight, learn to lift weights, learn to draw, learn to paint. There is an infinity of skills to discover and develop. This is exciting and fun!

The next step is to go on adventures. Don’t plan, don’t set anything up and don’t go on dates. Just show up. Wherever you are invited, just show up. Speak to people sincerely and authentically. Tell them all about your new passions, your discoveries and your time. Find out about them, share things together.

You will never find what you are looking for if you are not driven by something greater than yourself, a pursuit larger than life even.

Devote yourself entirely to your passions and you will find joy.

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“I’m the opposite of moderate, immaculately polished with the spirit of a hustler and the swagger of a college kid” – T.I.

Did I just quote T.I? Yes.

In my search for excellence and commitment to self-improvement, I’ve seen various concepts and words thrown around such as “be positive”, “be passionate”, and “find your edge”. But really, how would you go about doing that exactly?

I’m going to share with you a formula for feeling absolutely indestructible. This formula will make you leap out of bed in the morning, chase your passions relentlessly, never reel from a setback, and make you dread the sunset as it would mean you have to go to bed.

This formula will make you volunteer for the toughest tasks, make you dance in the streets, sing at the top of your lungs and smile like a moron all day long… Just because you can.

Put on some awesome music and let’s get started!

Ritualize your habits

This the first step to feeling amazing.

Wake up, take time for stillness – be it meditation, visualization or just sitting still and being with yourself.

Before you reach for your phone. Before you touch your computer. Before you check your email. Before you do anything really, just sit upright, close your eyes and take time. 5 minutes, 10, 15. It doesn’t matter, but take the time to be alone with yourself.

This might seem scary at first – and indeed, when you do not know yourself, this is scary. But as time progresses and you start to feel more and more unstoppable, these periods of peace will become akin to taking a mental vacation. Do you dare to sit alone with your thoughts?

I used the word ritualize on purpose here – this should be a quasi-religious practice. The time between you and yourself should be sacred. No one and nothing should be able to take away from this practice.

I know what you’re thinking – “I don’t have time!”

Which leads us to step 2.

Make time

Cut out the distractions completely. Turn off the idiot box! Does it really matter who gets booted off “So You Think You Can Dance”? If you really think about it, if you seek entertainment for entertainment’s sake, shouldn’t you be concentrating on doing something fascinating with your time instead? The scariest thing is noticing when people start to identify with characters they see on TV. Who’s life are you living? Stop living vicariously through others – your life should be an incredible adventure!

You don’t need to check your cellphone every 5 minutes. I too can’t believe what Stacey said to Jessica’s boyfriend. Trust me, I’m as shocked as you are… But we’re on to bigger and better things here!

Look there’s nothing wrong with the occasional movie, TV show, or what have you. Just don’t make a lifestyle out of it. Eliminate distractions and you’ll notice how much time you actually have. Use it wisely!

Exercise and refuel

After you read this, get out of your house and go for a run. Or drop down and do some pushups and squats.

We live in the age of the 7 minute work out. There simply is no excuse anymore. Get off your bum. Wanna learn yoga? There’s 10 000 youtube channels dedicated to teaching you yoga. Don’t have money or time for the gym? Awesome! Look up calisthenics – you won’t be disappointed.

Also, what’s with the muffin and coffee with extra sugar and extra cream every single morning? Your body is something sacred. What kind of fuel are you putting in there? Are you giving your body the best possible nourishment so that it runs the way it should?

If you’ve never taken the time to read up about all this, you should. The way your body works is fascinating stuff. In any case, after a week of eating properly, you’ll start to feel amazing.

Honour your friends

Once a month, I get together with 5 of my closest male friends. We take turns picking a new restaurant that we’ve never tried before and we all go. No girlfriends, no loud music, no distractions. We all get together, enjoy each other’s company and eat good food.

I have another group of friends who live all over the world, but we SPAM once a week and talk philosophy – that’s what we do. I have a close circle of wonderful, intelligent and stunning ladies. Once a month we go out for drinks. That’s what we do.

My point is, honour your friends. Care for them, show them you appreciate them, be interested in their lives. Build bonds that last for a lifetime.

Go on adventures

This is quite possibly my favourite part.

From now on, consider yourself a Yes man or woman. In fact, drop the planning nonsense. Your weekends are completely open. Then, simply pay attention to what you’re invited to. Stop going to that same bar every saturday, with the same people, and sit around listening to the same music. That huge guy at the gym invited you to watch a kickboxing fight. Say yes. That dorky girl in class noticed you also like comic books, so she invited you to this cafe that serves you a comic book with each drink purchase. Say yes. Your friend you havent spoken to in ages invited you to watch her brother’s rock band play in a dingy bar on the other side of town. Say yes.

You get my point. When you are open to everything, you broaden your horizons and go on unexpected adventures. You meet incredible people and every day becomes something new and fun. I’ve been called a social butterfly, but not really. I’m just in the right place at the right time. I’ve hung out with celebrities, millionaire businessmen, weird artists, MMA fighters, fashion models and about a hundred other types of people. Why? I show up.

Put on your shoes and go out adventuring!

Help others

Hugely important! Now that you have time, now that you are always out and about on adventure, you can stop to help that lady cross the street. You can help those tourists find the restaurant they are looking for. You can sit on the sidewalk next to that girl who is crying. You can go into the grocery store, buy a sandwich and bottle of water for that homeless guy begging outside.

My point is, helping others feel good will also help you feel good. You’ve literally got nothing to lose! Just take time, or make time, to give back.

Flirt and fall in love

For a day, a week, a month, a year or forever. Flirting comes easy when you feel this amazing! Invite! Invite everyone to everything! Stop taking life so seriously and making everything so contrived and weird.

“Uhm… Do you… Do you wanna grab coffee sometime?”

No way! “Let’s go do something crazy! We’ll need a pillowcase and rainboots.”

Live a little!

A friend of mine made an interesting calculation. I’m a straight male living in a city of 3 million people. Remove 1.5 million men. Of the remaining 1.5 million, remove 0.5 million for too old, too young, married etc. Of the 1 million left, if I considered myself only 1 percent attractive, then that leaves 10 000 women in my city, right now, who would love to be with me.

It’s a flawed calculation for many reasons but the point he’s making is amazing! Right now, in this city, there are 10 000 people who would love to be with you! If you are alone, all you have to do is leave your house! If you are alone, it is because you are not showing up.

If you follow this formula, you’ll be finding each and every day incredibly exciting. You’ll find yourself begging for the next challenge. Isn’t life supposed to be this fun?

Your fan,
Mack

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How to manifest your desires

To manifest your desires, you must take full responsibility for your internal condition

Ever seen a dog chasing after a car? What do you suppose that dog would do if it ever caught up to the car?

In order to create a life of abundance, you must first make the space for it. How do you create space? With your thoughts, your words and your actions.

If you were to see yourself walking down the street with a beautiful woman on your arm, would you look and think “of course!”? Seriously think about that. If I told you that you not only are you fully capable of achieving everything you’ve always wanted, but in addition to that you can do so right now, this very instant, how would you feel?

Because the truth is that you can leave your house, meet an incredible woman and go off on a passionate adventure with her.

Because the truth is that you can leave everything and reinvent yourself the way you want to, without any of your fears and limiting beliefs.

Because the truth is that you can get off your ass and do whatever it takes to be in the optimal state of health you’ve always dreamed of being.

You get the point. Everything you’ve ever wanted is within reach, but if those goals are not aligned with what you feel you deserve, then you will always find a way to sabotage yourself.

How do you get yourself in alignment with what you want? Feel good damn it. Right here, now. Just sing, dance, clap and laugh yourself silly. And don’t do it because you’re expecting miracles. You’re going to have to sweat to get anything you’ve ever wanted, that’s a given, but it could either feel like a chore – you can be dragged kicking and screaming, or it can feel incredible – you’ll be jumping out of bed, eager to get a start on the day, and you’ll be dreading bedtime because it means you have to settle down and sleep.

The choice is yours.

Mack

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As Above, So Below. As Within, So without

Alright, last week we discussed how you have to feel incredibly good in order to facilitate and really boost your growth. Now let’s talk about what that means for the way you carry yourself in your day to day.

First, let me make a point that will change your life, and your social interactions. Are you ready?

Who you truly are always shines through

Seriously meditate on this for as long as you need.

What this means is that, regardless of how hard you try to hide your intentions, your feelings, your desires and really, the nature of your character, the world will see through it.

I’m not trying to freak you out, nor am I insinuating that everyone except you has psychic abilities. What I’m saying is that, for the most part, people are perceptive of slight cues that hint at your actual state. Granted, some are more perceptive than others, and it’s really rare to have someone who can truly fully see right through you, but if you think it’s all that crazy, think back at the last time someone close to you was lying to your face. There was no way to prove but, you can just feel it that this person was lying to your face, even though there was no real reason for you to feel that way.

K, some people (especially women) have that times ten.

This is actually a good thing! It means you can finally shrug your shoulders and just relax into what you already are. You don’t have to pretend to be super confident. You don’t have to pretend to be super outgoing. You don’t have to pretend to be aloof. You don’t have to pretend to be super happy. All you have to do is just be. And the amazing thing is, as a byproduct of your self-acceptance, you will usually end up being all those things.



“If you don’t realize the source,

you stumble in confusion and sorrow.

When you realize where you come from,

you naturally become tolerant,

disinterested, amused,

kindhearted as a grandmother,

dignified as a king.” – Tao Te Ching



Your fan,
Mack

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You cannot hold onto your baggage and still expect change

Gentlemen, this I say to you with the utmost certainty: You cannot hold onto your baggage and still expect change.

Don’t believe me? Take a long honest look at yourself. Take a look at your every failure, your every shortcoming and your every disappointment. Are you where you want to be? Probably not. That’s really the only proof you need – there is a chasm between where you are standing now, and where you just know you should be standing.

This where it gets tough – where you have to make a decision most people don’t have the guts to make. The decision is a simple one: Do I make a radical change, right here, right now, forever, or do I keep holding on to my fears, my victim mindset, my excuses, my guilt, my reasons ad nauseam?

Which will you choose? No one can make this decision for you.

“No work or love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart, just as no valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now.” – Alan Watts

Your fan,

Mack

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I occasionally come back to browse the forums. I'm starting to be convinced that this is the one and only thread left that is worth checking.

This is the only one which is not filled with misogynistic bullshit but it actually helps new guys to start appreciating themselves, the world around them, and women.

Please, keep up this journal, Mack. You are doing this community a favour that someone should have done eons ago.

Peace,

In$tinct

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I'm humbled by your comment brother.

I wish you joy

Mack

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Brother great articles by you....u do skip all the bs and i would love to take free SPAM consultations with u....okk i wanna ask u something....who do u think we should follow for outer game??there are so many pua that it gets confusing.....ive heard rsd is the best nowadays....but their material is too much to remember at tyms....i would like your opinion

Don't follow any of it. Just keep getting out and introducing yourself to people. You WILL get rejected. But do not get swallowed by all these bullsh*t techniques because you will stray from who you are and that will reveal itself.

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Bro but there has to be someone might have to follow in case i run out of things to say....and i cant remain who i am...coz who i am is not getting laid .....patrick mentions a number of guys here...like vin dicarlo,zan perrion etc....and the problem is most gals dont stop to hear me say hello :p

If you keep thinking in dualities, you will remain stuck. There is no inner or outer game. Just be as you are.

Women don't stop to hear you say hello because you don't even listen to your Self - why should they?

You've asked me this question 3 times. You will not get the answer you are looking for from me.

Mack

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Relax bro u dont hav to get angry...its okk ill find the answers myself

Ohh i suddenly realise uve already given me the answer to that before....vin dicarlo attraction code and 60 yoc....i didnt realise im becoming a self help junkie by asking u meaningless stuff again and again....it could be due to my no fap routine too....Thanx bro i really need to get out of this cycle!!!I'll Keep pushing

Stay away from RSD. Cancer of the community. Really.

Stop listening to PUA bullshit that women have it better than men. They don't.

You really just have to get to know yourself on a deeper level. That's where it all starts.

You don't need gurus, you just need a clear head without the little voices inside that keep pushing you back.

Once you get to know yourself you can silence them and start appreciating the beauty of the world and enjoy every single second you live.

Why do you ran out of things to say? Do you have nothing to say, or are you afraid of saying what you really think and how you really feel? You're still focused on getting laid. It's clear from what you write. Drop this mindset. Drop this "I have to get laid to feel like a man" bullshit. You don't.

Eliminate this crap from your mind. And refuse to back down.

That is how you grow.

There are times when I sleep with a different girl every weekend. There also have been long periods like 6 months or more when I haven't even come close to sleeping with a woman. It makes no difference to me. I'm happy regardless. I focus on what is really important and walk my own journey. During that I will naturally encounter women and with some of them I will connect on a deeper level and with some of them I will not. In the end I remain the same happy person. The only thing that matters is that I stay true to myself. I won't go there to talk to that girl just to make myself feel better because "I have tried it today too". I also won't skip on the opportunity to talk to that other girl who seems very interesting to me. The outcome of that though is irrelevant. Again, the emphasys is on that I stay true to myself and I don't betray myself.

I can't really phrase it any better than this. Mack is a lot better at it, though if you have read all 9 pages then I think you somehow missed out on the important parts because of your bad focus on "how to get laid".

Not trying to be rude, just my observations.

Life is love.

Peace

In$tinct

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Good post Instinct

"The Self is everlasting and infinite, standing on the motionless foundations of eternity" - Bhagavad Gita

When you stand on the wobbly throne of the ego you will eventually collapse... Over and over again, forever.

99% of all problems you will ever encounter stem from not knowing yourself.

Once you do, the rest becomes a breeze.

Also, to those readers on this thread, please don't wait til the next post comes out... If you have questions,r require clarifications, want me to write about anything specific, or just really feel like telling me to fuck off, please do not hesitate to write.

My duty is to serve. Tell me how I can help

humbly

your fan,
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