Update:
Guys this is getting so much easier!!!
The only thing is that school is out of session so my daily interaction has gone down significantly but it's forced me to be more diligent rather than spamming my efforts
I have noticed some things though that i wanted to share and possibly get some insight on
So I've been really approaching a honing my skills and so far it's been a whole lot of trial and error
Texting
It's important to have a solid interaction and it makes getting a response easier but I've noticed that the first text is always the most difficult. Some guys stress about it or think up some complicated way of getting an answer back, which in many ways is just needy.
I've experimented with both and I've found i at least have a 100% response rate when i try this. It's a small sample size but it's been working.
They say a picture says a thousand words and one of the issues i used to have was trying to write 1000 words in the first text. I noticed that i send my friends funny pictures or memes sporadically, even if i haven't seen them in awhile and i always get a response. So i decided to take that and try it on some girls that i was fairly certain i gamed pretty well.
I think of something funny we spoke about when i first interacted with her before i got her number. It can be an inside joke or related to it and i send it to her with a short blurb connecting it to her. It almost always get a response.
Example: I met a girl named April and i solidly set a date for the next day. I got her number and jokingly put her name in my phone as "April O'Neil" from the ninja turtles. I called her right there to make sure she got my number and stuck around an extra five minutes before saying our goodbyes. I texted her later that night with a picture of someones dorky car completely painted and modded up into a TMNT car and typed underneath it "No wonder you get pulled over all the time..." This both connected to the fact that i called her April O'Neil and to another part of the convo where she talked about getting pulled over earlier in the week. The text was met with a very enthusiastic response. More than your typical boring "Oh god he actually texted me" response. I joked one more time in the conversation and cut it off saying "See you for coffee tomorrow" and she responded "Absolutely!"
Hair Playing
Part of my problem is that I've never been very forward and usually limited myself to kino with hand and arm touching. Lately, once i've established a bit, i started playing with their hair a bit if it's down. I usually start by saying something like "Your hair looks soft" or "is that your natural hair color" and instead of waiting i just usually reach out and start touching it/running my fingers through it. At first i was so afraid that i would get outright rejected/punched in the face/ cops called on me but was really pleasantly surprised by how calming it actually is for most women. I do this, of course, after i've reached out and touched hands and her arm, but when i do this it almost guarantees that she'll be fine with me escalating a bit more/become very interested in talking to me more. I don't do it for very long but i intermittently keep it up at different points int he conversation with solid eye contact.
Hand Clasping
This was probably the first step i took. Most people grab hands or use the back of their hand to touch their arm or upper thigh, which i already do, but i've noticed a totally different dynamic happen when i interlock fingers with a women. I usually go with a high five and just kind of naturally, but dominantly, lock my fingers with hers briefly. It's almost become sort of an initial indicator whether or not she's interested. I'm sure it's not the only metric to gauge the interest of everyone but if i can seamlessly interlock my fingers with a girl i've noticed that they give me more time of day to continue escalating.
CHAT
