I have got a huge problem! I met a girl three weeks ago, pulled off the approach and ended up spending an hour just chilling and talking to her. She is in the same college as me and live a bit far from where i live. Well after two weeks of just talking to her and spending some time with her, i finally got her into my bed and we had good sex. The problem is that i want to start a solid relationship with her but she keeps on telling me about the boyfriend that she has been dating for six months. She claims she likes me and that's the reason why she had sex with me. She feels guilty of cheating on her boyfriend. I tried kissing her yesterday at school and she refused. What have i done wrong? and what can i do to make this girl my girlfriend?

1)Well for starters, you tried kissing her at school. Since she has a boyfriend, other people also know she has a boyfriend. If one of those other people just happen to see you guys kissing, everything everything for her is fucked. Isolate man, isolate. Either that or she is really starting to feel guilty.

2)Don't make her your gf. I know you probably really like her, and the sex was awesome. But if she can't commit to one dude, what makes you think she's gonna commit to you?

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[quote="cement"] What have i done wrong? /quote]

You fucked a girl with a boyfriend? Is this a real question man lol

You think that when she slept with you knowing she had a boyfriend she had any intention of becoming emotionally involved?

The more you want to lock her down in this situation the more she will pull away. You're not dealing with a single girl. You're dealing with one dealing with guilt and the emotions of another relationship. Thats a full plate. The guy will blow himself out in a short time and she'll leave so long as he isn't her financier. Thats when your moment will be there. For now you just have to chill. Enjoy the sex without the emotional baggage attached to it if you want, since you're already in it. Pull back. Let her reach out. NO more initiating.

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[quote="cement"] What have i done wrong? /quote]

You fucked a girl with a boyfriend? Is this a real question man lol

You think that when she slept with you knowing she had a boyfriend she had any intention of becoming emotionally involved?

The more you want to lock her down in this situation the more she will pull away. You're not dealing with a single girl. You're dealing with one dealing with guilt and the emotions of another relationship. Thats a full plate. The guy will blow himself out in a short time and she'll leave so long as he isn't her financier. Thats when your moment will be there. For now you just have to chill. Enjoy the sex without the emotional baggage attached to it if you want, since you're already in it. Pull back. Let her reach out. NO more initiating.

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Okay thank you very much RedRover. i think that she was just feeling guilty because non of her friends were around as i tried to kiss her. I totally agree with you about the commitment part, so can you please tell me what to do from here on? How do i build comfort again and get her in my bed again?

you should sorry for your kiss at school, and tell her smth like that "Dear, I understand you had a bf, but I'm not gonna crash you relationships! we got a sex, crazy sex, so we just can do it again, when yo want, okay?"

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The best thing you can do is understand the situation. Give it time. Be there for her. And LET HER decide what she wants to do to be happy. Just make sure you let her know you are there in case she decides is you.

Be ready to let her go.

And thats how you turn a girl into a girlfriend.

In my opinion.

If you try to force things, even if you win, things will turn out shity.

You want her decision to come from the heart and you'll have a flourishing relationship if it indeed worksout in your favor.

But like i said, be ready to let her go. It's best to move on sometimes. Dont burn any bridges though, never know what the future might bring.

But if you want my advice, i'd say "who cares?"

Too much abundance in life to be all stressed over anything or anyone.

*Peace*

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