Your post about making them 'feel like she's the only person in the world...' is scary for me to read. If that's your wife then by all means. If your discounting 'picking' up chicks while on a date, I agree with that too, bad idea.
But, if a women I'm out with has such low self esteem that I can't chat up the bartender, waitstaff, barback, hostess, randoms to invite into our fun, then I guess she's another random and it really doesn't matter anyways. Personally, I like to send a chick I'm with to go dance with people without me. I know how hot and bothered chicks can get dancing and I don't do it well. What I can do well is be confident and show that confidence by not being affected by it. Also, chatting up everyone around me when she comes back, tell her 2 songs and be a social butterfly during those 2 songs. Introduce her to your new friends when she returns, maybe, even, buy her (scratch that), leave half of whatever your drinking and give it to her when she comes back. Cheers

Damn, I've been doing it all wrong. I thought when I'm out with a girl in a party I need to spark attraction, and that's by talking to other girls. No wonder the girls I used to bring never stick around in the end, they were probably pissed. So what I really need to do is build comfort huh. I thought going to party with a girl would be a little different than a date since we're in a very social environment and the correct thing to do is to socialize with other people, So if she's talking to others do I stick around by her side? Would I appear needy if I do that?[/quote]




Haha, I'm always the oblivious asshole. I would leave her alone for short periods, driving down into her how much she wants you around. I feel like it really depends on the chicks social skill, self-esteem, and actual venue. Personally if a chick took me to a party and left me soul and separate i'd be as good as gold cause i'm not a lost puppy but depending on the women you take out she might have the scared lost puppy mentality. Still leave her so she finds that inner yearning for a home puppy mentality but not to the point where she feels abandoned for all eternity. A perfect time to set sail is when she's talking to someone else, male, especially female. Body language is a good indicator of neediness. If your not in the convo walk away wordless but in a happy way. Leaving pissed off is super needy so always leave and return with a smile.

A great DHV would be to introduce her to everyone, circle the room and introduce her to people you don't even know. You look social to her, you look social to everyone else, social proof yourself.