Is there such a thing as coming on too strong? Last night I was at a friends party. I did not know many people. But I quickly won over the men. They all seemed to like me and wanted to hang with me and kept asking me questions. And sometimes when I would be around a girl there would be some other guys. And I would catch myself in the a certain negative body position, (arms crossed, hands in pockets) so I would quickly change. Or if I was in the same body position as someone else, I would switch my body position. Is this possibly too much? I also felt I was talking about myself too much, so I would ask the girls about them. Any opinions or tips would be great

I have a problem like that. Albeit I rarely go out to parties were people really know each other much, I used to go out to clubs and I did try to make approaches, but it felt extremely unnatural and just not right to me. This is why I won't go back to clubs.

the problem is that you, thought about what you were doing and made it a problem in your head... and it showed in your body language (arms crossed, negative body language etc)

From what i read you started to get in your head when you talked to girls, maybe even because there were guys in front of girls you were talking to that intimated you idk. BUT the point is that you shouldn't get into your head like that, say whatever the fuck you want to whoever the fuck you want. be an alpha. an alpha doesn't care about if he's talking about himself too much or if his body language is wrong he's just being himself. (which ends up you in positive body language because of your comfort)

Come off as whoever you are, if you are a strong type of character then go with what works for you! What works with me in conversations with girls is that i usually tease them and be really playful which initiates a similar response back. Then play along with that, and what you'll notice is that if she's interested she'll ask about you and i usually answer with a funny response that is obviously not true and then tell the truth leading into something i genuinely want to know about the other person not something i try to think of to continue a conversation. keep it all natural