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PostPosted: Wed Apr 15, 2015 7:02 pm 
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Long story short, I fell in the friendzone with the girl in question because of rookie mistakes like poor escalation. In the meantime her douche but alpha bf dumped her and she got a beta rebound. Since then I improved my game, became more confident due to success with other chicks and lost a lot of my "nice guy" side. It so is that I believe I am sparking her interest. Here is the original post on the subject:

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Since that post she moved her facebook status back to single, although the now ex beta rebound is still around. In what terms, I do not know. They say breaking up is like knocking over a soda machine, you can't do it in one push. Maybe that's it. Fuck if I know (or care).

Still increasing kino. Lots of casual touching, briefly resting my hand on her leg, caressing her arm when we were seating at a coffee shop, giving her a neck massage at that same coffee shop when she complained her neck hurt, embracing her to take a picture at the sunset.

IOIs on her part: The ocasional look in her eyes. You know the one. Still takes selfies with the two of us and posts them almost anytime we hang out. Yesterday I updated my profile pic to one she took (although the pic is of me alone). Two female friends of mine liked and comented. She imediately comented "It's only good because I'm a great photographer". Making it clear she was with me, like she is marking territory or something. I am a sucker for blondes and she is a brunette dyed blonde. When she complained her hair was ruined by all the chemicals and I sugested she went back to her natural black she said "then you wouldn't like me" and changed subject half embarassed. And finally, the last time we hanged out (two days ago) she showed me her panties allegedly to show a bruise on her tigh. Why would she do that? Again, no chance of closing. It was in my car on a parking lot at day time.

Now, with all that, I should just escalate, but first of all there is a chance this is just a cat string. Second, that same time two days ago, she said that "men can all be divided into three categories: bastards (first ex), clingy (the rebound) and gays". I told her "oh yeah? And wich one am I?" she responded "the clingy, probably. I had one and it was sufocating!" I know why she said that, I was the textbook definition of a "nice guy" when we met and told her what I felt before escalating. So I was thinking it's probably better if I just cool it off for a while and wait until she is the one coming to me in order not to be "clingy".

What would you guys say? Escalate now or wait until she is the one to make a move?

Thank you for your time.


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 15, 2015 7:11 pm 
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Long story short, I fell in the friendzone with the girl in question because of rookie mistakes like poor escalation. In the meantime her douche but alpha bf dumped her and she got a beta rebound. Since then I improved my game, became more confident due to success with other chicks and lost a lot of my "nice guy" side. It so is that I believe I am sparking her interest. Here is the original post on the subject:

how-to-steal-a-girl-and-does-she-want-m ... 88450.html

Since that post she moved her facebook status back to single, although the now ex beta rebound is still around. In what terms, I do not know. They say breaking up is like knocking over a soda machine, you can't do it in one push. Maybe that's it. Fuck if I know (or care).

Still increasing kino. Lots of casual touching, briefly resting my hand on her leg, caressing her arm when we were seating at a coffee shop, giving her a neck massage at that same coffee shop when she complained her neck hurt, embracing her to take a picture at the sunset.

IOIs on her part: The ocasional look in her eyes. You know the one. Still takes selfies with the two of us and posts them almost anytime we hang out. Yesterday I updated my profile pic to one she took (although the pic is of me alone). Two female friends of mine liked and comented. She imediately comented "It's only good because I'm a great photographer". Making it clear she was with me, like she is marking territory or something. I am a sucker for blondes and she is a brunette dyed blonde. When she complained her hair was ruined by all the chemicals and I sugested she went back to her natural black she said "then you wouldn't like me" and changed subject half embarassed. And finally, the last time we hanged out (two days ago) she showed me her panties allegedly to show a bruise on her tigh. Why would she do that? Again, no chance of closing. It was in my car on a parking lot at day time.

Now, with all that, I should just escalate, but first of all there is a chance this is just a cat string. Second, that same time two days ago, she said that "men can all be divided into three categories: bastards (first ex), clingy (the rebound) and gays". I told her "oh yeah? And wich one am I?" she responded "the clingy, probably. I had one and it was sufocating!" I know why she said that, I was the textbook definition of a "nice guy" when we met and told her what I felt before escalating. So I was thinking it's probably better if I just cool it off for a while and wait until she is the one coming to me in order not to be "clingy".

What would you guys say? Escalate now or wait until she is the one to make a move?

Thank you for your time.
this sounds like textbook one-itis. why arent you just moving on?


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 15, 2015 7:50 pm 
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Phase 1 "Hey let's grab a drink together?" (make sure it's a one on one, so no social circle malarky)

If it is a no = move on
If it is a Maybe = move on
If it is a yes = move to phase 2

Phase 2 - Go for the kiss

If it is a no = move on
If it is a maybe = move on
If it is a yes = move to phase 3

Phase 3 - lead her back to your place

I'm sure you can figure out the rest. Stop messing around with gay facebook clues and just find out the truth already before you're deeper into the friendzone

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Do you want to get rid of the guy or get out of the friend zone? Cause thats something you kind of forgot to mention.

So you’re the guy hanging out with the girl that just had a bad break up, and found a rebound.. Who’s the real “beta” here? You’re a third string option. Theres two layers to get through before you could even have access to her. And I don’t think she is worth the effort at all. Especially if she’s down and all the time…

Unhappy people can only drag you down. Rule number one in the 48 laws of power is to Avoid The Unhappy & Unlucky..And yes, even if that unhappy, and unlucky is a pretty girl.

Who’s happiness is more important to you.. Yours or hers? If its yours.. Act like it and get away from her.
Does this sound familiar?

My advice on this is still a reference to that. You've post about this already. Not much has changed. She now just has two ex's while you've been sitting around waiting this whole time like the "nice guy" you're trying to convince yourself you no longer are.

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PostPosted: Thu Apr 16, 2015 1:06 pm 
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The reason the last 2 guys were not you seems self-evident to me.

The other guys are actually gaming her and you're dabbling on social media trying to analyze what her next move will be and what her state of mind is.


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