| If you're too dominant you're making up for something, which is apparent in your op since girls are pointing it out. I suggest you find out why you're such a control freak. I am also dominant and sometimes am very direct, yet also can be subtle with it and have never had a girl even point it out. I don't say "hold my hand" or arm I just offer it and they take it. I give them the CHOICE of doing, because if you don't do that you're a dictator who will eventually keep losing women. You may win for a bit because most guys aren't strong, but in the end you will lose these girls as apparent by what they are saying to you. NO ONE likes to be controlled think about your own life, and I bet there is some link of you NEEDING to be in control of other people like a NAZI. People LIVE FOR THE FEELING and A LIFE OF FREEDOM, so keep doing what you're doing and eventually the girl will dump you. You probably had someone or a situation control you, now you make up for it by seeming to be a powerful person, BUT you are WEAK because you NEED to assert your power over other people to feel good, good job and thank god you didn't live in Nazi Germany in WW II because you would've made an elite soldier!
So the 1st stage of defense mechanisms is DENIAL. People put up defense mechanism because rather than change and LEARN, which requires effort and energy, the human brain will attempt to negate any new information for introspection, learning, and real change. You will deny you have a problem and most likely WILL NOT change or attempt to learn anything until you keep losing women. BUT perhaps even then your brain will be SO in denial every time a girl breaks up you will blame her. PROJECTION is another defense mechanism, be wary of whatever you say about the girls who break up and leave you because most likely what you say about them is really a reflection of you. If you EVER get over denial, which would be rare for most people, you will use anger and blame other people/situations for your plight. Just as mentioned you are MAKING UP for your NEEDY real self in being over assertive because you've had some situation in your life probably do the same to you thus you will discover what that is and be ANGRY AS HELL about it or again DENY that you have any emotion about it. But overtime you will learn to forgive about it and see and accept the situation how it was and it creating you. The whole thing is about self learning and learning about life, if you can do that you will grow and become a better person, if not you won't. For a nerdy comparison PUA guys really do get MORE KNOWLEDGE than majority of guys from human emotions, interactions, and creating a better life. Thus they can use it to either become more of the darkside or the lightside, the line is VERY thin and we can fall either way depending on circumstances and personal strength. Good luck
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