I am 25, and I guess a bit sexually frustrated. In my mind I want to go to an escort for practice, just to see what I can do, and to get over my curiosity. What is holding me back is the possibility of a STD and the stigma attached to the act. But I am starting to be very curious and eager about it. Reading all this PUA material is just making me think even more about sex. Another option is to start approaching women, as I have never approached even 1 girl with a true intent of picking her up and going after sex. I feel as there is a mountain of pressure with regards to sex with a girl. I would probably be so nervous, an older woman would be helpful, I think. What you guys think?

Damn, that's a tough question man. You're not the first with that problem though! Don't feel alone brother, ha.

If I were in your position, I'd get an escort. STDs shouldn't be too much of a concern, IF it's a higher class type escort service. If she's off the corner, then all bets are off. When/If you get one, tell her your deal. Tell her you've having thoughts on changing your life for the better and you need to start getting laid! "Teach me oh wise hooker!" She'll want to help you.

Honestly, I've been dealing w/ the same question myself. In the end, I decided I'd rather work for it the old fashioned way. Not too long ago I met a chick that I had been chatting up online. And as many have found this out I'm sure, pictures and the real thing are totally different things. She was a tad bit bigger than what I had originally interpreted and to top it off she kinda reminded me of my mother. Yeah REAL buzz kill on the latter. So long story short, my online game was apparently good enough that even though I was deliberately acting like a complete AFC douchebag that she all but asked me to screw her.

I couldn't do it. Physically, the equipment was in working order and all, but it just didn't feel right. I think what I was looking for was an emotional connection. So as a challenge to myself I resolved to look to make that connection w/ someone first, then worry about the sex.

Reminds of a discussion I had with a buddy over New Year's Eve. He said that sex isn't really that hard to get if you're willing to relax your standards. What's far more interesting is just the male-female interaction. You can really only have sex for so long, so what are you going to do with the rest of your time. So enjoy the relationship process, whatever the nature of the relationship, and let the sex be the icing on the cake, not the end-all-be-all that it isn't.

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personaly paying for sex i feel is ridiculous, but then again i'm not in the same situation ur in. the one thing that i realized about sex after awhile is its not some insanely hard thing to get and women want to have sex too. my advice is to stick to it and not give into a service. keep practicing pu bro you'll get it soon enough.

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Well I am torn in the decision; a part of me would jump on the opportunity, hey it would be fun. The other side is saying don’t be a dumbass you will regret it afterwards. There really is no right or wrong choice. But I think with what you said I will stick it out, and do it the longer more rewarding way of pu. Use it as motivation to get laid. Nice to hear your reality though, i.e. lots of sex and girls wanting it.

thats a good attitude and it will be that much better when u do loose ur virginity.

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Why would you regret it afterwards? Is it because American society has taught you that sex is only a "thing to be cherished with the ones you care truly, deeply about" or ... why?

It is a tough decision and you should just go with what you really want. Just make sure your decision isn't based on your fear or nervousness of having sex for the first time. Most likely you'll suck in the sack and won't get a second chance at the girl who spreads 'em for you. But, if you had some practice beforehand, your odds of pleasing the woman you pick-up increase dramatically. Question yourself a little maybe...

I would not regret it. Like I said it be fun, and I would know that I am capable. I would want the practice. The only thing I would regret if a future girl would ask me when I lost my virginity. I don’t think I would want to lie to her. But then again it’s nobody’s business. It’s this stupid nobility of being honest, but then to whom am I being honest to?
I know what you mean about the girl being rather disappointed with the performance of a noob. But hey, I am sure I can recharge quite quick. And then just keep going. I would just compliment her on how she turns me on. Any thoughts?

Intresting posts guys

I thought the title of thread was 'lost virginity to an escort'
I was gonna say 'waaa hey, nice one, get in there my son'

At least do some approaches and get a date first before you think about this, im not saying its a bad thing, you may feel good, but you wont feel proud afterwards.
BTW There is a difference between and escort and a hooker. If you are gonna do it, search the net for the hottest lil thang out there.
But i have no real advice for this one, jus do what you gotta do.

First, your sex life is only concern for you and your partner. You are 25 man, be inside thelaw and you don´t have to give any explanation. STD is not a major problem, use condoms, be paranoid and don´t kiss her on the mouth or genitalia. Only thing life teached me, you will not forget your first time. So I dunno you have to see that it will not automagically solve your issue with girls. Maybe will lead you to more frustration

I'll be frank with you. I think you should do it and my reasoning would be the fact that alot of guys have extra stress and have a harder time with AA if they are virgins specifically because of the fact that if they are a virgin then every time they approach women they are thinking "hey this could be the one that I lose it to" I feel as though it just puts an extra amount of stress on a man to have to think about losing his virginity when he could be thinking and concentrating on other important aspect of his game. In the end you will end up doing what you want to do but I think you should go with whatever your GUT feeling is on this one because in the end you are the only person you have to answer to for the actions you have decided to take. PERSONALLY I have never gone this route never had the need to I take plenty of attractive women home but I also kinda have a slight fantasy about this so my opinion on the matter is probably biased in the fact that I am kinky and like the idea of things like this. But anyways go with your first thought on this and I personally believe that if you do it that it will only improve your game.

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You have to slay a few dragons before you can get to the princess. With that said i have hard time relating (lost my vcard a couple of month after my 16th) Just like in 40yr old virgin. You gotta slay mad hood ratz.

You have sexual frustration - to get rid of it, going to an escort will solve your problem, but only in the short term. Unless you're loaded, it won't in the long term. If you want to sleep with beautiful girls all the time by paying for it, you're probably going to hit a dead end.

The only way you're going to solve this is by meeting girls and working at your game. You cannot do this with a lot of sexual frustration, it makes you more nervous, your stakes are higher, and you are not relaxed in your own skin.

Even if you end up with average girls first - girls are girls. Of course, the hotter they get, the more serious they take themselves, the better your game needs to be. But the idea is the same.

Solution? Go to the escort, but to avoid the 'shame' of losing your virginity with her (if you haven't done this already), go only up to 3rd base - this way you're venting your energies without going the full way. You can even ask the escort for some advice, if you think she'll be honest and impartial.

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What is it that you want to 'practice'? Pumping your cock in and out of a vagina through pelvic thrusts? Separate fucking whores and fucking girlfriends. Sure you might pick up a sexual tip or two from a hooker but you're not going to gain any insights into Pick Up.

Look . . . if you're here, you're curious about pick up. If so, learn pick up. If you're clicking through escort sites, you're curious about escorts. If so, go get yourself an escort. But don't think that one experience will magically influence the other.

By American standards, you're a bit late on the curve but not by much. Who CARES? Nobody gives a fuck other than you. You have sex on your mind but the real problem here is is the lack of a relationship awareness. You've never had a girlfriend you can trust. This forum is filled with horny kids with great imaginations. Filter through the junk and figure out how to FIND GIRLFRIENDS. You're not after sex. You are after relationships... If you had strong relationships with women in the past, the sex wouldn't be a mystery; it would have been a natural course.

Do what ever you want regarding the hooker gig. It has no bearing on your future in regards to getting girlfriends. If you want a hooker, get a hooker. If you want a girlfriend, get a girlfriend.