Some things are complex and take time to build an understanding. Other things are deceptively simple, are right in front of our noses and we just have to think differently in order to see it and use it. Which of these is learning how rapport works with a women? Any specific recommended articles, books, etc?

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To me, rapport is communicating in the same way as you would with a friend or a family member. This isn't just verbal either, body language and other non verbal cues can be rapport.

If you are in your head trying to desperately think of cool shit to say, that is trying for rapport and can repel. It's gotta feel natural and effortless.

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I think rapport is like a woman's attraction to a man, like a volume knob. You can have more or less rapport. The highest level is when you mirror each other, being "in the bubble" where the outside world cease to exist.

There is a technique called "pacing" which you can use to build rapport. Most people do this subconsciously, but learning about it gives you an extra edge. To answer your question, I don't think rapport is any of the two options you gave. It's somewhere in between.

I'm going to record a podcast covering these topics concerning rapport building today.

Open ended vs close ended questions
Emotional Conversation
Actually caring about the person in front of you
entering the interaction with the mindset of one coming to give
Smile (1)
Why do you want to build rapport with someone?
Understanding that you’re not going to connect with everyone.
Confidence ( believing you're interesting and that people should want to get to know you.)
Touch

I'll come here and let you know when its up. And/or you can google these topics and how they apply to dating women.

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