Very new to this so Saturday I met up with The Omega Man and we went out surging in Southampton, I got approached by a woman who said she recognized me and used me as kind of an alarm clock when she saw me on this certain street wheatear she was late for work or not. I made a joke of it found out she works at Southampton General Hospital where I have just started working as a Patient Services Clerk.

I said we should meet and she suggested we go to Costa on the Hospital site, texted her Tuesday to meet up at 5:30pm and heard back late Wednesday evening, she said that sounds good but needs to leave at 6:10pm for work training,she is a Pharmacist.

Now I know this might be an easy answered question but I haven't had a 1st date which I'll had to try and cram into 40 minutes. Normally I spend 2-3 hours with the girl go for drinks, have fun and then the old me would grow the strength to go for the kiss.

This is coffee, on the work site in 40 minutes, can anyone give me some advice to deal with this, if she isn't interested I don't what to make a prxxk of myself and see her at work.

Other then handle it like a normal date, let her do 70% of talking, make her laugh, look for signs, dont lean in has anyone got any tips to shorter dates, do I still go in for the kiss even after 40 minutes?

This is my 1st meeting with a woman I haven't told that I have Cerebral Palsy in my right arm too.

Thanks in advance, Matt

^ This makes as much sense as saying "It was great to see you. Now here's a baseball"... I read it 4 times and I have no clue what this even means.

Anyway, just treat it as any other data - but you've only got 40 mins... so escalate faster. Hug when you meet her. Sit beside her, not across from her (if it's possible), and kino lots.

Listen actively to what she says and be genuine and interested.

At the end, if she's not an asshole, give her a kiss.

Not rocket science... just a fast date.

I get best results when I am intensive and almost a bit overexcited, because it stimulates the girl and makes her want more. I would start the date by saying "this will be a short date, so let's make the most out of it", and without hesitation or pauses start the conversation.