How did I handle it?

She basically said "my feelings are hurt that you talk to other girls...i see that you are still online and changing up your profile, why are you still on ther...how would you feel if I talked to other guys, would you care"...



She stalks my profile here and there...we have been seeing each other for 3 months.


Basically all I said were along the line "Listen, you are important to me, you understand that right. I don't have the time nor energy for a serious relationship right now. But i want you to stick around because in the future I surely will. It is up to you".


She said "Well my stipulation is for you to stop talking to other girls...that is my ultimatum, I guess talk to me when you change your mind".

I said "well, it is up to you, I can't force you to do anything, have a goodnight dear".

and then we said goodbye and got off the phone.

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Be straight forward and honest.

If you don't want to commit right now say so and thats all you can do just make it clear if they refuse to talk to you from then on its their loss not yours.


"How would you feel if I was seeing other guys"
I'd say good, I want you too. If you really like me as much as you say I have nothing to worry about. This exclusive bullshit isn't healthy anyways have a fucking social life.

If the girl leaves you great that saved you time money energy etc you can spend on someone else.
If she stays its good because she is clearly into you.

same goes both ways.

You have to play with the same rules. If you can see other girls, she can see others guys too. Personally I prefer to be exclusive with a girl, until I lose interest. It's not very efficient if you enjoy promiscuity, but everyone likes different things.

Is that actually true or are you leading her on?

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I thought you were the guy who wanted multiple LTRs? Or am I confusing you with someone else?

Apologies if so...

If not, though... That's maybe something she'd need to know as well - since she obviously seems possessive, in that respect.

At the moment, yes, that is me. I am seeing a couple of girls at the moment, casually and it might be that way untl throughout the summer. But I don't think I will polygamous forever. At the time it works with my schedule and the amount things I have to get settled in my personal life. I can't commit to one person right now because I am not all there yet. Besides, I got out of a relationships 4 months ago and this girl knows that too. She knows that I see other girls as well so I haven't promised anything.


I know I'd like to settle down again in the future. But not until I am ready. I also have to treat my ADD symptoms. I was diagnosed awhile ago and I understand how they really impacted my last relationship

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I do play with the same rules. I always tel them that I wouldn't expect otherwise because that would be a double standard etc. they have a right as well. So no gray area there

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If this happened through text, the next time a girl says something like this just do not respond. She'll contact you again in 24 hours or less.

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It happened on the phone but I saw it coming. She texted me before saying she wanted to talk to me...about stuff.

I couldn't really run away from it anymore. She kept bringing it up even when we hung out even when I was playing it off or trying to change the subject. She's persistent.

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Then you probably weren't being clear enough. Some girls will stick for it and some girls won't. You just have to be willing to take the loss. She'll always respect you if you do.

She'll contact you in a couple days. Just do go running after her.

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I understand. I also took the call because I have to practice stating these things. I also have to practice the whole be willing to walk away thing, even though I did like her. So overall, I think this is good for me. I think she will contact me, when she does, she will like me even more for sticking to my guns.

The problem I have is that I am running into more girls that "aren't about that life" or girls who are trying to be the one and only and change me. I think I got to hit up bars and clubs exclusively it seems.

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Most girls aren't about that life bro. You just have to find the girls who are truly about you and just aren't about their own agenda. They're everywhere. And the stronger you're will to stick to your guns the more you'll lose the girls who aren't worth you time and be endeared to the girls who are.

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I am going through something similar.

This girl I have been seeing for nearly 2 years, she knows that she won't make a boyfriend out of me. I continue to see other girls in between and she will give me shit every time she finds a hair clip, piece of glitter, blonde hair in my bed.

She has dumped me about 7 times now and each time I stick to my guns and I don't break.

2/3 days I will always get the ' I miss you ' text.

I fuck her sooo good that can't commit to dumping me because she ain't gonna find a guy like me in a long time.

I feel like a cunt sometimes, but at the end of the day I was honest from day 1 about being Poly and I do enjoy her company and I devote all my attention to her when I with her.

When a girl gives you shit like this, i think you show integrity and stick to your guns no matter what, you have to hold the line like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1NupxasQWs

When she gives in, the sex is angry and rough and they love to be degraded for being a pain in the ass. They love it.

I could get rid but I don'y see any point in making both sides unhappy, she is free to hook up with guys but she doesn't want to.

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Holy moly. 2 years? I don't think I would go that long but yeah sounds like my situation. Good to see someone else is in a similar situation. Are you ever settling down?

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Yup 2 years is a record for me too. one text, and she will instantly come around to suck my cock. Whenever a different girl gives me slight resistance/challenge, I just flake them and just hang out with her.

I went to Poland this weekend to see another girl i am seeing, she moaned and dumped me. But she came back the same night i arrived and was sucking my cock regardless.

I do think I will be much more motivated without her but it's nice to see one main girl and shag a bunch of girls who don't give me any resistance. Really happy with things at the moment.

I told her the truth that I will cheat on her or anybody else that I settle down with. My cards are laid on the table, it's her choice to participate or fold...

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