Gents,

You can skip down to the last 4 paragraphs or mini-paragraphs of this post if you're short on time.

I hope you’re well. Tonight was not one of my better nights, but it was alright. I managed to get a good number close and had a failed escalation with another Persian chick. I insisted on going to a certain area. One of my best friends who is a bartender texted me for wingman assistance since one of two girls was all over him. I texted back for more info since I wasn’t going to drive to his place unless there was a solid chance of the girls’ staying there with him. Too late – He texted 40 minutes later and ended up banging both of them in the bathroom during work. Lol – I should have gone there earlier and listened to him.

So, I have a question related to another interaction. I could use your advice. I avoid cold-approaching when possible at my college so that I don’t get a bad reputation if I am not successful. But, there is this one French girl who has given me clear IOI’s on two occasions and she is the only girl whom I wanted to approach directly. I am indirect with all other college girls. Part of my problem is that I don’t command with much authority and having dominant body language is unnatural for me. I am working on this.

I ran into that French girl tonight on my way out of my dorm. She looked smoking. This was not a smooth interaction since she caught me off guard and I was not warmed up. We saw each other and…

I said: “Hey, how’ve you been?”
She: “Good. How are you?”
I: “I am quite well. O wow, it looks as if you just got back from Woodrow’s.”
She: “O, I am about to go somewhere with friends. Where are you going?”
I: “O, I am going somewhere which is fun. Hey, I have to go in a second, but come over here for a moment.”

I tried to pull her aside since we were standing in front of the door and I wanted to get her out of the way so that I could talk to her for a minute or two. But, I didn’t get compliance since she said that her friends were waiting for her. It is possible that they were in a car and were watching us out front; I don’t know.

Is there a way to perform damage control or should I put her in the friend zone?

-Nice Guy

Maybe you left out some details? What damage are you trying to control? You asked her (in what sounds like an unnatural and sorta weird way) to "come over here" and she didn't.

That's it?

There no damage done. Just go try again. I don't even understand why you're bringing up the friendzone.

Lead her away physically instead of asking, if you can. Or just say something like "hey I'm in a huge rush - can you walk with me for a sec?" (She may not - but it's way more natural than what you just tried).

For me all damage control is is trying to control a situation or trying to get an "HB" to validate you without asking for the approval of you to be validated. In the end you're still putting in work to get one girl. To me it's still chasing dude. In PU we don't do the chasing which is why people should be in PU. I'd look the other way if you already made a solid connection with this girl if it went bad or somethin', but, wouldn't perform any of tht on girls first being introduced to or met. Spend time meeting other girls w/o putting emphasis on one.

I don't do standard pickup anymore. I got makeouts, but i never actually got laid with standard pickup. I've only been laid by means of direct dating. Yet, I do apply some PUA techniques here and there such as push/pull, future pacing, etc.

I mentioned this in another thread. I am experimenting with Badboy's approach and the instafuck method. Badboy, however, establishes more comfort with a girl if he sees her as a potential girlfriend.

I am interested in doing the latter with that chick as long as she isn't a total bitch, if she can keep up with me, and if we both like each other. But, I need to get to know her and see what's up.