Idk what the deal with this girl I am texting. She seems to take forever to text back, usually the girls I talk to get back to me in a decent time frame (at the most an hour or 2). Its pretty hard to have any sort of conversation. We will exchange a few flirty messages then I will have to wait several hours or the next day to get a response.

We have already had sex, cuddled in bed, and hung out a few times. Furthermore, she seems to be in a good mood every time I see her. We have they same social circle, and her girl friends initiate conversation with me all time. They often ask to hangout, and get back to me in a timely manner.

I suppose from now on that if I want to set something up or convey plans, then I should just call her. As for starting conversations over text, perhaps I should not text her for several days/week, or deal with this minor annoyance.

I have also considered just being direct and texting something like: "For a girl, you take a long time to text back. _____(her girlfriends name) and _____(other girlfriends name) have been chilling lately, and I want to include you."

She's either not interested anyone, which is a possibility (not sure if its the case though), or playing hard to get, or just aloof when it comes to having conversations over text.

At this point, I am not sure I have much to lose by being direct or not texting her for awhile. I have already closed and her friends enjoy my company, so I assume I will see her around anyway.

I think she is just playing hard to get. Remember people want what they can't have. She probably knows that you, as well as other guys, "want" a response back ASAP, and knows that this is driving you crazy. It also seems like you haven't pushed her away any to get to her to chase you (I'm just assuming). Try not texting her for three days after she texts you and see what happens

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I know that some girls won't chase you no matter what. It's either you who do all the job, or nothing will ever happen. From my experience, they are "spoiled" with attention because they look good and have become lazy. I don't say your girl is one of those, but it's still a possibility. IMO they are not worth your time. But if you "let go", you have to be ready that she may lose all interest in you. If you push too hard she may also lose all interest. And that's exactly why I don't think girls like that are worthy my time. They have to deserve my attention. They have to be CLEAR IN THEIR INTENT (RSD term, and since I always turn the rules around, I expect good game from the girl).

Just start mirroring her response time plus a little bit.

Also try to use text only to setup your next date.....especially I'd she's doing this. Don't feed into it by responding in 30 minutes when she took 6 hours. That's telling her you have no value and it's letting her control the pace.

is her name jessica? And do you live in new york city? lol

Sounds like a chick i used to talk to. I would just call her though. Theres no real rule on texting and not texting back. But theres sort of a rule on unreturned phone calls.

Although if you want to call her out; i would advise you not take that girl passive aggressive approach. You sound like a chick. Ask her straight "Hey, whats with the long pauses between your texts ?" .. You don't have to make up some story. If you wanted to involve her you would just text her that. " Hey, I'm with __ and __ you wanna join? "

Be straight, or just stick to phone calls.

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Yeah probably stick to just calling her from now on. Texting is not worth the trouble. If anything I can bring up her taking too long to text back in person. By chance she is no longer interested, which idk why that would be the case, then eh easy come easy go.

I reversed the roles. I started taking forever to text back, and she would send a few messages before I got back to her. Other than that a I have gotten a few phone calls, and text message from her later at night (definitely had been drinking when she called me on the phone, I assume the same for the text messages).

My friend is in the same social circle. According to him, she is the type of that only text back quickly or calls when she wants to hang out, or got out and have fun.

That being said, probably keep the texting banter to a minimum over the week, and call her over the weekend when I have a plan to go out.