So i had a crush on this 19 Yr. old girl who has a 23 Yr. old boyfriend. ( I'm also 23). I've known her for 2 weeks now. She told me she had felt some feelings towards me and we hung out twice and really hit it off. Every time i see her we hug and hold hands. A Couple days later she goes cold feet and say's she can't anymore because she's in a relationship every time i try to get her out. She didn't say that shit the first two times she agreed to go out ! Same thing with the texting. In the beginning it was back and forth she would always text me first and would even go out of her way to even apologize and explained why she replied late or couldn't reply. We really connected, now she'll text every other day or so and even then sometimes she won't reply back even though she was the one who texted first trying to start a conversation. Since i met her we always used to talk about how i felt about her and vice versa but if i bring up the topic now asking her she wouldn't reply. She always used to pick me up from class since we live close by each other but she told me last night she couldn't use her car this morning because her step dad was going to use it and told me she would see me in class. Next morning she doesn't show up for any of the classes and on my way home i spotted her driving home with her girlfriend in the passenger seat and her boyfriend waiting in his car outside her house. Don't understand why she had to lie about that to me, when i clearly told her it was okay if she didn't like me that way. I would have still been cool with it but instead of just telling me the truth she avoids the those types of questions entirely and then makes a lie. I don't get it. Since that we haven't texted each other.

I believe that she placed me in the line between friend and boyfriend. If her feelings for me are NOT genuine then why keep distant and make a lie to cover up ? Meaning to say that her feeling are real but then again she's with him. These signals are so mixed i don't know what she's feeling or thinking that made her switch up. It made me remember a time when she mentioned to me that she's usually stubborn in the beginning. What do you guys think of the situation.


I would like to try again after a couple weeks or maybe months but don't know how i should go about it. What if i don't text her then a couple days later she texts me should i still reply to it ? If so what should i even say. Should i bring up what i saw or just stay quite and play it cool like i don't care anymore ? Keeping absolute distance as in no face 2 face talk is impossible since i see her 3x week in 2 classes.


I knew it was a bad idea to go for her since i knew she had a BF but since i had a crush on her and i need to practice what i learned on the forum i said why not and if i end up with her then it's a bonus. I am seeing other girls as of now so i not on oneitis. However i do not want to totally block this chick out of my life because as i said i do like her and want to try again sometime soon in the future. Just need to know how to play the right cards against the situation till then.

Your first and biggest mistake is that your coming from a place of neediness rather than abundance. A needy man needs it to work with one girl or he will be heartbroken. A man in abundance doesn't really care about one girl, because he knows that there are 3.5 billion women on this planet, and he can just go out and meet more of them.

With regard to this specific girl, it seems that she was courting you and her current bf simultaneously. In hindsight, you probably should have tried to escalate with her the last time that you had hung out with her. The only way you will get this girl out again is if you stop acting needy, and give her a good reason to come see you. Try this:
1. When you text/ call her, keep the conversation light and humorous. Don't bring up emotional or touchy topics.
2. Ask her to "come with you for coffee" at the local starbucks. If she asks why, just say that you want to have a coffee and talk with her about stuff. Don't get into a detailed back and forth over text.
3. When you meet up with her, avoid talking about her BF. If she brings him up, you can try "I think you're the type of girl who needs 2 boyfriends!" or "just because he got there first doesn't mean that he's better for you." The first one is funnier and would be my go to, but you should use the second if the conversation has taken a very serious edge and humor would not be appropriate for the tone.
4. Utilize GAME and fuck her on that date. Sex creates investment. Once you have sex with a girl, she will backwards rationalize and tell herself that you must be amazing, otherwise she wouldn't have had sex with you. From there, you can make her your gf or your fuck buddy, whatever you want.

Overall, though, you need to crawl out of neediness into abundance. Remember, this girl is just one out of 3.5 billion.

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