Backstory:

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Short version, went after a girl, she friendzoned me and started dating another guy. So I cut off almost all ties and severely reduced contact.

Since then I had two ONS's and tried dating another girl but it didn't work out. Anyway, I havn't seen this one since... well, abouth a month ago or so. I keep playing cold, she desperatly tries to make contact and texts almost daily. No news there.

The thing is is that a lot of people knows the two of us. We used to study together, hang out after school, everyone knew I was into her and that we were very close. Even though she no longer studies here she somewhat kept in touch with our old colegues. Now aparently everyone is cricticizing her lack of judgement and saying she should be with me.

So, first of all, from a psychological standpoint is the social pressure working in my favour or against me? Can I use it in some way?

Second, is there anything I should be doing diferently? Any change in tactics I should apply? And when should I try to reaproach?

Thx.

This doesn't work in your favor. It's going to put her into that her against the world mindset and she'll invest more into her boyfriend. Saying something turns it into a reality. She's told you that she wants to still be your best friend and nothing more. Now she's telling others that you guys are just friends and nothing more. Ending up with you will mean going back on her word. Your mutual friends need to leave her alone about you because it's causing more harm to the idea of you and her being together.

You freezing her out, IMO, is not a great tactic because she's not showing you a sexual vibe anyways so she's not really missing anything. What she will respond to is seeing you with another woman/women because there is usually a spark of jealousy when another woman gets the attention that could have been hers.

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Thanks