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Yeah. Well, IOI means indicator of interest yes (touching you, reinintating conversation, laughing at your jokes etc, complimenting you) But she does all of this. But I CONVINCED my self that she was doing this because she liked me. AS A friend.
Hence I researched on how to get out of the friend zone, where I from there could read (from threads on this forum aswell) that the right approach to escape the friend zone is to disappear (break rapport).
I understand that routine and I will follow it.
At the moment, I have asked her out and gave her a day. but she refused the day, and promised to find another day.
So nothing.
What do I do in the mean time? Kino, Kino, kino?
The only reason that you are in the friend zone is because you put yourself in there, not her. The route you're taking will eventually have her agree for you to be in the friend zone. I bet all of the posts that you read about being in the friend zone are about guys that are being told that they are just friends and they have no ability to escalate with the women that they are interested in. Your situation isn't like that. She hasn't told you that the two of you will only be friends and she hasn't told you that your kino escalation is unwanted. She hasn't pulled away from flirtatious kino. Those friend zone tactics do not apply to you.
I don't understand why you need to ask her out and at the same time in the position to kino escalate. You two are already spending time in each others company. A kiss doesn't require a scheduled date.
I think from everything that you are saying so far is that you want this girl to confirm her interest in you either verbally or to agreeing to go out on a date with you. That way you don't have to face rejection if you decide that you do want to kiss her.
I can't have my first kiss with her publicly in a bus station in front of all my friends and her friends. Second of all, she often has her best girl-friend with her (all situations) and I just don't feel comfortable doing it when im not alone with her, hence the risk of rejection + her not feeling comfortable could fuck it up.
Kino is not as hard, because I did that to start with ONCE I was alone with her. Therefore is no risk of public rejection. Just for the heck of it, I never kino escalated her into sexual areas (boobs, ass, pussy) .
you need to stop this break rapport shit right now. You are doing it at the most inconvenient of times, and as the others have suggested you're making something so simple so hard. I have been here before so make your next objective when you see her to kiss her or push for more. None of this weak ass hand-holding shit. While you're at it, work on that inner game. A real man knows not to apologize for his behavior and make excuses like "her friend's around" a "cat was crossing the road" etc. Just go for it or hold your peace. i would apologize for this harsh advise, but i wont, because i feel everyone else's been giving it to you easy and its frustrating as hell. Good luck
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