How many times did you try to kiss her?
How many times did you try to touch her sexually?
What signs did she give you which indicated that you were dating?
How many times were you alone with her 1-on-1 and failed to make a move? Be honest.

If you think she was in the wrong even now, you clearly still haven't learned from this experience. You weren't even the backup guy. You were just solidly in the friend zone and misinterpreted her being nice to you as flirting.

Women don't owe you anything. They owe you jack shit. If you're too clueless to figure out that you are in the friend zone, that is your fault, not hers.

Anger is a negative emotion. You cannot channel angry emotions against women into something positive.

Well to be completely honest and this is a situation i hate talking about it was many events besides her leading up to this. I had been rejected by many girls before but never really cared about it. I was already pretty depressed for many reason. But around the time i met her, was when everything started going up for me. I started getting closer to my uncle and grandparents (ive always had trouble connecting) and met a good girl. Im thinking hey cool a turning point in my life so i was pretty excited. Life was going good ya know.

So im talking to this girl and everything is going great. At one point she pulled away from me so i figured ok shes not interested. I start talking to other girls and she comes back and we're closer. Like just close enough to not be friends. Introduces me to her friends. She's telling me all this stuff like for example the blizzard day. Im out there with her below zero and buses arent running and all her friends are gone. Out there holding her talking she's telling me how she likes being with me. It's been 20 minutes and she says "i dont live that far actually" so i say "Let me walk you home". i didnt think of it sexually i was thinking i want to get out od the cold and she says "i dont think we should do that yet." finally her mom comes. She later introduces me to her mom ALONE. So i call her later and ask if she wants to do something (planning to ask he rout bu ti hate stuff over the phone). As i said it was finals so we hung out after they ended and thats when i asked her. She tells me she's started dating a guy a week earlier. MEANING while i was out there with her standing in a blizzard for almost 40 minutes she was dating someone. I called her a fucking bitch because she tried to lie and say she thought i was just her friend. Then she changed it to say she thought i only wanted her for sex. Then says something else. I wouldve been fine if she said "i just dont like you like that" but dont try to lie.

BUT the back story to this is that those 3 months were the worst 3 months of my life. I had to put my dog down which was my best friend. Ok he was sick and suffering in a better place now. 2 weeks later my grandma which i had just started getting close to dies. Ok she was getting old and thats what happens. 2 weeks after that my grandpa dies and i am alone watching him go in the hospital. Ok thats fine. Then a month later my uncle who taught me pretty much everything about painting, construction and all that, was with me when i put my dog down, only 40 years old, dies. Shit happens i told myself over and over. But a few weeks after that is when the girl dropped the bomb and i guess i just couldnt stand it anymore.

TL;DR. Everyone dies and i get rejected

So to answer any questions you may have

No i don't blame the girl for any of this.
No i dont care about the girl and her guy anymore
Yes i still think she's a fucking bitch because she bold barefacedly lie to protect he conscious or whatever. Im usually a nice guy but on that day i couldn't filter what i truly wanted to say.
No my actions arent controlled by women my actions are controlled by emotions.
I dont think its a problem if a situation scarred me in a good way.
Do i still think she played me? Yes. Did i allow myself to be played? Also yes.
Do i play video games? No
How many times did you try to kiss her? a few times and did
How many times did you try to touch her sexually? a few times
What signs did she give you which indicated that you were dating? i never thought we were dating
How many times were you alone with her 1-on-1 and failed to make a move? The majority of the time we were together we were alone.
And no one owes anyone anythign but it wouldve been pretty decent of her to at least indicated hey im dating someone, or to say oh hey im not interested.
And im not angry at women i was angry at myself for allowing myself to let this happen.

But i was young and dumb so whatever its over lets move on. im very glad you guys have never had problems with women but i am not so fortunate. All i asked for is that we post stories about our worst heartbreak. I didnt ask you to dissect, analyse and tell me what i shoudlve done in a situation that happened years ago. I didnt ask for everyone to show their skill at making profiles on people. All i asked for is stories of your worst heartbreak and what YOU learned from it.

Ok thanks the explanation.

But.... If you never thought you were dating, how can you be mad at her for dating someone else? That makes no sense.

It would've been decent of her to let me know but it's not her obligation. But that wasnt why i was mad. I mean it wouldn't make any sense for her to date me if she didnt like me like that.

I was mad because she was making up multiple lies trying to make me seem like the bad guy. I wouldnt have cared but i found out she was saying this to other girls who told others. She said she was naive and didnt realize all i wanted was sex and stuff like that. At this time i really didnt talk to people on a personal level except my close friends so what she said about me was pretty much what every saw me as.

You still aren't getting it.

Now naturally you're going to think YOU know what you mean and everyone else just isn't understanding, but take it from someone that was once where you are and is now a lot closer to where you want to be. At least in the realms of attracting women. This is just advice from another level; and often times the level is so far beyond where you are that you cannot see it because its too far beyond your spectrum of vision. It'd be like trying to explain the beauty of music to a man without the ability to hear. Of course he'll think he "gets" it, but he couldn't be any more wrong, because he hasn't actually heard music yet.

Here is where you must submit to the reality of someone who is above your current level. That is.. If you intend to grow.

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