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PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2015 3:09 pm 
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Do you tell her she can't do certain things and what?

I was thinking I should tell my girlfriend that they can't go inside any guy's house. She can't wear certain things, etc.

What are other rules or should you have rules for a girlfriend for boundaries?


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2015 3:24 pm 
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I was thinking I should tell my girlfriend that they can't go inside any guy's house. She can't wear certain things, etc.
LOL - good luck with that. Since you're treating her like your property you may want to invest in a protective carry case as well.

Just joking man, but really not... You can't impose those rules on people! Ifyou don't like how she's behaving, then don't date her.


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2015 4:57 pm 
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You can't control another human being.

What you can control though are the behaviors that you will tolerate from someone else. You can never be afraid to leave.


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 03, 2015 5:06 pm 
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If you do not feel like you can trust her, then maybe you should find someone else. Trust is a big part of a relationship. You can't get trust without giving trust.

Most of the time I have seen this it is not so much that the girl has demonstrated herself untrustworthy it is because the guy is insecure and has his own trust issues. He feels like his lady is hot/cute and someone may try to take her. OR since you were able to pick her up, maybe another guy can too. Bottom line you don't trust her to say to guys, No I have a boyfriend / in a relationship.

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If you want to impose rules, you have to put them out there before you decide to make it "official". Before she becomes your girlfriend you have to work those things that you wouldn't put up with into a conversation so she won't be blindsided by your over possessiveness and control issues.

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I wrote an article called " She will Follow so Long as You lead" - It'll answer this in more detail.

But in short:

Your rules shouldn't be shit you have to say. Rules are things that are rooted in your mental barriers and boundaries that people don't cross because they pick up on your vibe that they can't cross that line.

Also.. A rule is only a rule if there is some sort of consequence for breaking the rule. If you tell a girl not to do something and she does it anyway; what do you do? A girl is only going to follow a rule if your vibe tells her that there will be some sort of repercussion for disobeying the law.

In my personal situation; a girl knows I will LEAVE and never look back if she ever goes too far with crossing one of my boundaries . I don't have to say this; my vibe says it for me and so she gets this and acts accordingly.

You don't have to enforce rules and laws with women. Just know what you will and will not stand for on the inside and be willing to WALK if they fuck up. You're an opportunity for them; all they have to do is how you the proper levels of respect and they have the pleasure of being in your life. Thats not a lot to ask I think; especially when you consider what they get in exchange. YOU.

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