Hi folks,

I've started to read about PUA stuff about a year ago which has helped me a lot! Now I am able to approach girls, get phone numbers very often and occasionally set up some dates. The biggest problem for me is now follow up - most of the dates turn very platonic.

My usual choice for the first date is to get a coffee somewhere. The problem is that most of the coffe places in Stockholm (where I live) have tables with chairs on the opposite sides and it feels unnatural to sit down next to each other. On the other hand, sitting on the opposite sides gives VERY little opportunities to escalate physically (kino).

I know that many people suggest to change places during the date. So my usual follow up is to invite the girl to walk in a park or somewhere else nearby. There are two problems with this: 1) girls often have strict schedules and some other plans afterwards 2) most of the year in Sweden is rather cold (except for those two-three months during the summer), so the walk in the park ends rather quickly anyway. So I feel that I have little opportunities to escalate in both parts of the date.

Can you give me some suggestions for places for the first date? What is your usual setting?

Keep in mind that the girls I invite are usually strangers to whom I talked ~3-5 min in the metro or at the gym, so I can't plan something long and complicated. Also, please, try to stick to the topic and don't discuss seduction techniques here (unless very briefly), but rather give suggestions about date settings, because this is what I am looking for right now. And one more thing: I don't drink alcohol, so bars are out of question...

Yours,
Whuzzy

P. S. I've read "First Date Blueprint" by Chief, but it doesn't solve my problem.

If you don't drink alcohol, then I suggest going to a cafe for coffee. Make sure to sit next to her and not across from her so you can escalate and game her properly.

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Spontaneity! No plans. No time limitations, restraints, expectations... Nothing.
Tell the girl you will meet up at x location and figure it out from there.

Mall, for example.

And then, what? I am not very spontaneous person, so I need to have at least a rough plan. Otherwise, chances are that we will both end up standing without any idea what to do next, feeling awkward...