but otherwise your game is tight?

say you meet a girl and she knows you as a beast, but she learns one insecurity of yours, does this make her lose attraction otherwise?

you pass all her shit tests...you protect her....you show her you have options....you are interesting, talented, ect

Very probably not. If that thing is an insecurity over something that isn't her I'd say.

not her liking him, but more of an aspect of her dating history (like amount of guys or something)

Showing insecurity over her past is a great way to lose a girl. You need to figure out if you accept her past or not and either ditch her or get over it. Make the decision like a man and deal with it.

When you show insecurity over how many guys she's been with she is going to take it as you don't trust her and you think she's a slut.

Depends on the size( no pun intended if thats what it is lol).. It has for me before and hasn't during other times. Its all about how you handle it and how you present it to her and why.

What is it? We're all bros here right lol

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it is the size, but she was makin comments to counteract my swagger, and then after a few of her comments designed to get to me I'm like "wtf is this chick smoking, I'm a good size" (in my brain)

so i asked her bout the past in a moment of insecurity now this is the only thing that she knows i'm a tad insecure about, but I wasn't before her comments. she literally led me to ask this by tryna mention other dudes in her past in the most vague way, several times

keep in mind in all other ways, i'm very confident, i lead her, decisive, even full of myself to her a bit, a little bit of the arrogant game.

Thats all on you bro.

I personally can't relate to that insecurity, but there used to be some shit I was really insecure about, but just grew and got over it. If it doesn't both you, it won't bother her. If it bothers you it will bother her. Women are just following our leads at the end of the day.

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right, and I never bring this up anymore.

she occasionally had said something like (smiling) "i could tell you something...can you handle it????" ect, but I called her out on her games and she pretty much told me:

"well you have so much power in this relationship! I didn't mean it"


but doesn't it mean she is kind of a low quality woman? don't high quality women know this is not an area to mess with a guy?

She knows bro. And thats exactly why she's doing it. Because she has to make you stronger. If she never brought this shit up you would be walking around with pseudo confidence about your shit. It was a great thing that she did this; now you can look at yourself and build up the necessary confidence around that particular area.

The higher quality the women the more she will check on the areas she gets the intuitive sense that you're not too secure about so that you can strengthen them. An insecurity in you is a insecurity in her. She's following your LEAD.. And we all know that if theres one thing women want thats security. And in not just the physical sense.. in the emotional sense like this one here. You know how opportunity to provide that. See the light at the end of the tunnel. It hurts now, but you're stronger when its all said and done.

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agreed. what do you recommend I do? just not bring it up? how do I show confidence in that area now? I already talk myself up alot and very confident in other areas. It was just the fact that she was vague about her past that got me shook up a bit.

It may take time bro. It was a wound.

If you had a cut and you asked me what to do to make it heal what would I say? You just have to wait and tough that shit out until it heals with time and the removal of attention.

Emotional wounds are no different then physical wounds. You'll ego may have went into hiding for a bit, but it'll be right back in no time. Its just hibernating. You'll be back. Just chill.. Stop posting about it and stop reading about it. Cuts her most when we give our attention to it. Your body only goes to heal it when you ignore it. Thinking of it, posting it and reading it is like touching a paper cut. You have to leave it alone.

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is it right for me to be feeling like she is low quality for (lying or telling the truth, who knows) going to that level with me?

I acted the exact same way with another girl before and she never went there, she wasn't half as cute, yet she never resorted to such an attack/joke/vague jealousy ploy

ok

You're sounded hella insecure now. If you can't handle her, drop her man. Simple. I don't see the issue. My perspective is she made you stronger, but this is your life. Leave her if you want.

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why is it insecure to judge the quality of the chick you are dating? to hold her to a standard of behavior? a dude will always get tested, but should a dude ever be tested in that way? tryna bring her past to the forefront or playing things up that could be lies to get her man's ego in shambles