The problem with One-Itis' is that there is no Game: no openers, no canned routines, and not a whole lot of negging involved. We are reduced to our simple-selves. The reason is that we know One-Itis became One-Itis by understanding our simple-self; she can see past our clever charades. She leaves us with the sensations of vulnerability, nervousness, edification, and frustration, all at the same time. It proves to be a tricky combination.

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You ussually get so nervous around them that you cant even think straight. That is a VERY negative feeling. And HELL NO you cant just go out and "chase the girl" you have one-itis over. If you think so, you have been misinformed n the real definition of one-itis.

If you are going by the definition of one-itis that says she is someone you haven't ever had and thus should not have any really strong feelings for, then I agree, having a one-itis like that is stupid.

bro don't kid urself. i realize what the side effects of ''oneitis'' are but all i'm saying is its natural to be emotionaly and mentaly attached to a girl u really like. as much as these might it have negative effects on ur relationship with her, its natural. i'm just sick of people relating this ''oneitis'' emotion as a evil thing that u should repress at all costs. people are starting to teach to devalue women so this oneitis emotion won't come up but that is wrong. i personaly love women and even though i don't always show it i respect them. and when i realy like a certain girl i show show her effection but i deffinately do not come across as needy which is a turn off to women. now don't get me wrong i'm not anti pua and the way we work is peer gold but the bottom line is to not repress a feeling of love for a women which is what people are relating oneitis to. don't be needy but its alright to have a overwhelming feeling of care for a women

GRKiller-
How do you figure? Some people game in order to get that very feeling. Maybe they love the girl, or maybe they have some other ulterior reason.

Let's take me, for example. I have always been relatively successful at Gaming, so when I get nervous around a girl that I'm attracted to (my One-Itis for example), I kind of like it. It's almost like a challenge.

As LOCO put it earlier, "id much rather have one girl that i can grow to love than going with a bunch of girls i couldnt give 2 shits about."

GRKiller, Maybe you just don't have a girl like that in your life???

my thoughts on one-itis is

in my situation, i dated a girl for 2 years and she dumped me.
I dont want to move on because i want her to be the one, but she is over me. I see the feelings as a good thing, but it is also bad because it is keeping me from moving on.

my 2 cents

Saying a natural can't get one-itis? Because they don't do nearly as much of the Outer game techniques you describe; they aren't hiding behind a charade.

I have seen one or two naturals get "One-Itis". Actually one of the best naturals I know is suffering from it now. You should re-think your definition.

I have always viewed 'One-Itis' as an irrational affection/attraction/need towards a girl. Thus, making it intrinsically negative. This definition fits all contexts I've ever seen it used and is not a exclusive to a subset of the population. Why should 'One-Itis' only be suffered by PUAs?

Sorry if this makes me a dick, but it took me about two minutes to read this post because I was banging my head on the desk in between the bad grammer/spelling and the sheer AFC-ness of the comments.
For anyone that was having as much trouble as I was:

Bro, don't kid yourself. I realize what the side effects of ''oneitis'' are, but all I'm saying is it's natural to be emotionally and mentally attached to a girl you really like. As much as it might have negative effects on your relationship with her, its natural. I'm just sick of people relating this ''oneitis'' emotion as an evil thing that you should repress at all costs. People are starting to teach to devalue women so this oneitis emotion won't come up, but that is wrong. I personally love women and even though I don't always show it, I respect them. When I really like a certain girl, I show show her affection, but I definitely do not come across as needy - which is a turn off to women. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-pua, and the way we work is pure gold, but the bottom line is: don't repress a feeling of love for a women - which is what people are calling oneitis. Don't be needy, but its alright to have an overwhelming feeling of care for a women.

There, that's better.

I think King has already been hammered pretty hard on this subject, so I'll leave the poor guy alone for now. I'll just leave you with the definition of "oneitis" from The Game: "ONE-ITIS - noun: 1. an obsession with a girl whom one is not dating; pickup artists believe that such an extreme fixation on one woman significantly lowers a man's chances of dating or sleeping with her. 2. a girl with whom one is
obsessed. Origin: John C. Ryan"

i was just saying its good to be able to have such strong feelings for 1 person, not that its good for her to not want me back