Hi,

I had a date on a Friday the week before last, went well and went back to hers, rolling about naked together, her saying she never been so turned on, some playful sexy texts in the following days, her arranging a 2nd meet up 2 days after 1st date. 2nd meet up was tonight watching a film event so not exactly one on one interaction, when saying bye I go to kiss her, she turns away and says not yet, then texts saying sorry x a few mins after saying bye then texts 30 mins later saying you're a really nice guy, you deserve someone special. I replied, you make me smile, thats what i want, you're deserving, she replies- but i love someone else. When in bed together on 1st date she did say she was in love with her ex but she may be using it as an excuse. Enuf of being a fucking nice guy I don't want to be her bf I just want to fuck her senseless, She's fucking confused and pissed me off. Why go out with me on the first date then go really cold unless I've given the impression I want to be her BF.

I need help, How can I reel back in via a text? A casual fling is what I'm after, do i need to spell it out to her?? HEEEELLLLPP

Did you fully close her ? You kinda implied that you were looking for something serious with your response of qualifying yourself by saying that she makes you smile and she is deserving. You need to act like it's no big deal if she's love with someone else or says you deserve someone special. Let her know that you're just going with the flow and let anything happen naturally and hang out with her again and game her normally.

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Couldn't fully close but did everything else, she has just gotten off the pill.This morning, I asked if she loved her ex why come on a date, she replied, she said didn't know and that she should be more careful, i told her i wasnt looking for anything heavy but to hang out, and that it was fun on the first date. Her- I know I had fun too. Me-Then it can happen again..No reply..Me- Meet me again, it doesn't have to have a big deep meaning, not everything has to make sense. So she may reply or not after mulling it over...Analysis please?

Think she made up her mind before this date. At this event last night after the showing of these films, we go to the bar and theres this guy she knows, he's clearly interested in her,making flirty jokes, a fucking annoying actor guy, i didn't try and impress her and out do him but just said hello and started talking to someone else ignoring their conversation, there was bit of a spark between them but he wasn't exactly an alpha male, dunno if that has contributed. They were saying they'll meet up next week to talk discuss a play. Her words on the 1st date whilst lying topless on top of me- no one has ever turned me on so much! Where the FUCK has it gone wrong? I'm a nice guy no more-fucking hate that shit.

This sentence confuses me. It's very much like saying "Of course I couldn't drive into Chicago. Bill just bought a new baseball glove." What?
No one has ever turned on so much and then let her down so hard. How disappointed would you be if you had never been so turned on, and then she just lounges around?

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How have I just lounged around? We set up a 2nd meet and annoyingly she got there before I did setting it up, what else was there to do?

Wow

You didn't fuck her = lounged around.

Setting up a second date after you showed her you're a timid mouse was never going to go anywhere.

Let's try a different analogy. She thought you were a man and hence turned on. Then you bitched out and instead of fucking her, you set up another play date.

It's the equivalent of you meeting a girl in a bar and getting her back to your place, just about to fuck, and then she whips out a dick that's bigger than yours. Still want "her" after that? That's where she is now.

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Yeah she sucked me off, i wrapped my lips around her nipples, and bit her senseless making her rub her clit on my hard cock, i was real timid, she had just gotten off the pill, she was in a play the every night the following week so couldn't meet, i was all set up to arrange a 2nd date but didn't think she'd be so quick to set it up,i didnt set up another play date, she did! if i say no thanks, yeah that would work out well

You're right, you did everything perfectly.
She's just crazy.
No lesson to be learned here.

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That's not actually what I said

I fucked more than 40+ girls last year and didnt hear that a single time.

Why? Because i give them what they want, and thats dick.

I am the nicest guy in the world. But when dealing with a girl you must go for the close. Unless she is really saying no, persist at least 3 or 4 times , dont rape her, make sure is all smiles. WHen a girl doesn't want it she will use a very serious tone of voice or just move away and get up or something very serious. Until then, keep trying. In a fun way of course. If you feel awkward she'll feel awkward.

What happened here i suppose is you set up a very nice guy bubble, she didnt feel you were going to fuck her brains out even though thats what you want to do. Otherwise she wouldnt have said that shit.

Just move on and learn from your mistake. or just flatout text this one "hey, come over" and fuck her.

But most likely you are not ready. Just take this as a lesson and next time push for sex more on the first date. Girls want a steady masculine energy that crushes everything in its path... thats a turn on.

A flabby...shaky wanabe confused energy useually leads to "Hey nice to meet you, bye" ....then she'll meet a douchebag who'll fuck her silly.

Stay confident. Lead. Close.

*Peace*

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You're advice is clearly noted and appreciated.

When i reached down into her panties she pulls me back out, she said a few times and i just got off the pill etc.. she texted everyday after for 5 days always initiated by her being playful then kaboom..I didn't set up a nice guy bubble on the 1st date, i left plenty of scratches and bruises so don't think that left a nice guy image,the nice guy stuff came after

in the moment id be ready so will text her hey come over

This is actually a good post. I'm impressed.

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im gonna text 'hey come over' tomorrow is this a good idea?

alternatively i can to say this, 'hey come over today, i know what i want and should of said it a week ago, I would have loved to have my tongue all over every inch of your body ... lick you up and down from your clit to your ass ... over and over ... stuck my tongue 4 inches deep inside you ... had your juices running down my chin ... until you cum. But I accept your decision. If you change your mind, you know where to reach me.'