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Haven't read replies...sorry if this is mentioned already.
Attraction is made in an instant.
I usually run something like - Spark attraction (through eye contact and body language) - approach and open her establishing communication and contact on my approach (light kino like a gentle brush on the arm, a high five or a hand shake) - (the next step actually depends on what psychology patterns I got from the girl, I run a 9 path framework/routine... we'll go with a girl who is open to sexuality, and isn't showing me a ton of direct interest since this seems to be the style you like) I have fun and jabber about some mundane situational topic tailoring my words to get her to laugh. This is meant to establish some basic social comfort, this is not rapport building by any means. Nothing deep is discussed and no real opinions are shared, just bs fluff conversation that doesn't show any of my real intent. this is within my attraction phase. I found that initial spark has to be cultivated or it will fade if you start trying to establish rapport with these types of women right after the spark.I still use light superficial kino - Then I have her qualify herself to me. Usually she will voluntarily qualify herself if the attraction was done correctly, some hold back so I have a few techniques to force a qualification out of her. Upon her qualification I use more powerful kino usually a hug or something more than superficial, but not sexual, friendly kino- After she has qualified herself to me then I will attempt to establish rapport. Rapport I have found is not built through jokes and superficial communication, or touching or anything like that. It's through the communication of a friend. So we start sharing likes and dislikes and I start talking about things and events I do in my life and get her to agree to join me at a few of them. About 5 things. Movies, bars, nice walks, etc etc at which point I'll close her number friendly kino through out. I don't take her number and run (not a fan of that since everyone does it) - Then seduction takes place. This is where I turn into the player and I use tactics like sexual tension, and I'll try to take them on an instant date first. This is where I will use sexual Kino escalation such as hand holding for 2 minutes strong, and going for kisses, and attempting to isolate her to a sex location.
So to me it looks like your style is all about attraction. There are different phases to the interaction and you have to play different roles in each phase... The attraction phase is more like being a kid. You have to transition out of the attraction phase with a qualification, which solidifies the attraction and moves you smoothly into the rapport building steps where you act more like a friend. Finally, you go into the seduction phase were you are the lover.
By relying solely on attraction and neglecting the other stuff, the game you run is really rough and has many holes that leave openings for the woman to have doubts in her mind. If you smoothly go from attraction - qualification - rapport - seduction. You should never get that I don't know you complaint.
I never do.
Like I said this framework is meant for a specific type of girl. I find out the psychology of the women and I operate different frameworks for each one. I have 9. The 9 have 3 different patterns to adapt to 3 different situations: Dynamic (fast paced environment like walking and the girl is moving in the opposite direction) Static (an environment where there is an extended period of time between me and the girl, like standing in a line, riding the bus, or in a coffee shop) Dynamic-in-static (parties bars or clubs). It's really a framework with 27 branches.
Don't mind me I was obsessed with PU for a while and had nothing but time to learn and practice stuff. Mastering one situation, and one type of girl will give you plenty.
Thanks dude, awesome reply. Yeah I feel that with the last 3 girls Ive gamed I had this flaw, they sent me the IoI like holding the eye contact, letting me touch them and even be receptive. But I lacked the part about "getting connected" as a "friend" like you said. It was more like "2 strangers who just flirt" and thats it.
By the way, "calification" means her working to get your acceptance?