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PostPosted: Sun Feb 01, 2015 9:15 pm 
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i have come a long way in this pua journey but sometimes i can't help into habits that i dread.i find myself getting jealous at times.there is a HB10 i met online number closed,went on a date and it went downhill from there we fought and really it turned ugly.i even insulted her called her a whore(not cool i know) she shut me out i apologized she said she is cool but she has completely shut down.she does not engage me that much nowadays so lately i gave her number to my friend because it is kinda a dead end for me and so he talked to her and she wants to meet him.i froze her out re-engaged her last week.i fluffed for a while and asked to meet her.she said "she would think about it" what does that mean? is she politely turning me down.anyway the same day i asked her out which is this saturday is the same day she wants to meet my friend and i have a gut feeling she would flake on me and go with him and i cannot stop feeling a little bit of jealousy..how do i get rid of this emotion? i hate getting jealous.sorry. for the long post.


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So let me get this straight...

1) you fought with the girl on the first date
2) you called her a "whore"

There won't be any second date, rest assured.

Work on your anger issue, you lost your shit and treated her like dirt. If she has any sense of self respect she'd steer clear from you.

Feeling negative feelings is one thing, ACTING on them is another thing altogether.


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You are too attached to this one girl

You need to get out and meet more women. Then you won't be jealous. Also not introducing her to your friend might've helped lol


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move the hell on. and next time dont insult and argue with the girl. go out and talk to other women and you will find that there are more attractive women out there. also have no outcome dependency because you seem to get attached to the girl quickly.


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So let me get this straight...

1) you fought with the girl on the first date
2) you called her a "whore"

There won't be any second date, rest assured.

Work on your anger issue, you lost your shit and treated her like dirt. If she has any sense of self respect she'd steer clear from you.

Feeling negative feelings is one thing, ACTING on them is another thing altogether.
what baffles me is that she still talks to me and replies to all my messages.she even asked me why i went silent on her after the freeze out.i have had the same experience in the past.i fight a chick and i maybe bump into her and things take a U turn and i end up fucking her.arsehole game at its best lol.


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That's the thing. When I was an afc I had this cool friend in the marines who always had beutiful girls around him. My AFC consisted of me just not knowing how to escalate properly. I could/can walk up to anyone and talk to them like I know them. It's just my personality. I will talk to a bum on the streets (and have done so plenty of times)

Side story, I was on my first date with an ex girfriend of mine and we were walking down the street. This big 250 lb ish street urchin walked up and I said "What's up Man, and stuck out my hand and shook his dirty ass hand." (I keep some hand sanitizer in my pocket, never know when you have to dig into your eyes to remove an eyelash and I would rather not catch pink eye from touching door handles or shaking peoples hands)

Anyway, the guy started rapping and in his lyrics he was complimenting the girl and talking about how he intended to rob me at first, but now I was cool.

Back to my related story: So one of the girls came around and I said Hi and started talking to her about something. I wasn't even hitting on her just doing my normal thing, and she looked at my friend and said, "Why is he talking to me?" I responded with, "Wow, shut the hell up." I was offended at her rudeness and not used to people reacting to me that way.

From then on the girl had a huge crush on me, but I just didn't know what to do with her back then. Looking back I understand because she did that to a bunch of dudes, and they would still fawn over her, but I put her in her place and she respected it.

She would be considered a 10. She was a military brat princess daughter of a high ranking official on the base.

This woman is probably going through something similar with you since the majority of the other guys think her shit doesn't stink. At the same time she is still exploring other options, and if you put too much attention on her it should kill what ever attraction she already has.

Do like others have said and go get other women. Try to set up a date any time you contact her, and don't just contact her to contact her. Just warm her up and get her in a good mood then Come down light a bolt of lightning with the date idea, and end the interaction.

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That's the thing. When I was an afc I had this cool friend in the marines who always had beutiful girls around him. My AFC consisted of me just not knowing how to escalate properly. I could/can walk up to anyone and talk to them like I know them. It's just my personality. I will talk to a bum on the streets (and have done so plenty of times)

Side story, I was on my first date with an ex girfriend of mine and we were walking down the street. This big 250 lb ish street urchin walked up and I said "What's up Man, and stuck out my hand and shook his dirty ass hand." (I keep some hand sanitizer in my pocket, never know when you have to dig into your eyes to remove an eyelash and I would rather not catch pink eye from touching door handles or shaking peoples hands)

Anyway, the guy started rapping and in his lyrics he was complimenting the girl and talking about how he intended to rob me at first, but now I was cool.

Back to my related story: So one of the girls came around and I said Hi and started talking to her about something. I wasn't even hitting on her just doing my normal thing, and she looked at my friend and said, "Why is he talking to me?" I responded with, "Wow, shut the hell up." I was offended at her rudeness and not used to people reacting to me that way.

From then on the girl had a huge crush on me, but I just didn't know what to do with her back then. Looking back I understand because she did that to a bunch of dudes, and they would still fawn over her, but I put her in her place and she respected it.

She would be considered a 10. She was a military brat princess daughter of a high ranking official on the base.

This woman is probably going through something similar with you since the majority of the other guys think her shit doesn't stink. At the same time she is still exploring other options, and if you put too much attention on her it should kill what ever attraction she already has.

Do like others have said and go get other women. Try to set up a date any time you contact her, and don't just contact her to contact her. Just warm her up and get her in a good mood then Come down light a bolt of lightning with the date idea, and end the interaction.
This girl was really into me.i remember before our first date i told her that i wanted to meet after days.she insisted we meet after three days.heavy kino on the date but i did not f-close.even after we fought she blocked me on facebook then unblocked me three days later lol.she would still text back but stopped initiating contact.before we used to joke and flirt a lot.if i meet up i am sure i can seal the deal because some of the most awesome sex i ever had came from chicks i talked shit to.i just say sorry in an emotional manner like a sociopath lol.But my question is how would i make her comfortable enough to meet up? she obviously seem hurt and is not flirting anymore?


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That's the thing. When I was an afc I had this cool friend in the marines who always had beutiful girls around him. My AFC consisted of me just not knowing how to escalate properly. I could/can walk up to anyone and talk to them like I know them. It's just my personality. I will talk to a bum on the streets (and have done so plenty of times)

Side story, I was on my first date with an ex girfriend of mine and we were walking down the street. This big 250 lb ish street urchin walked up and I said "What's up Man, and stuck out my hand and shook his dirty ass hand." (I keep some hand sanitizer in my pocket, never know when you have to dig into your eyes to remove an eyelash and I would rather not catch pink eye from touching door handles or shaking peoples hands)

Anyway, the guy started rapping and in his lyrics he was complimenting the girl and talking about how he intended to rob me at first, but now I was cool.

Back to my related story: So one of the girls came around and I said Hi and started talking to her about something. I wasn't even hitting on her just doing my normal thing, and she looked at my friend and said, "Why is he talking to me?" I responded with, "Wow, shut the hell up." I was offended at her rudeness and not used to people reacting to me that way.

From then on the girl had a huge crush on me, but I just didn't know what to do with her back then. Looking back I understand because she did that to a bunch of dudes, and they would still fawn over her, but I put her in her place and she respected it.

She would be considered a 10. She was a military brat princess daughter of a high ranking official on the base.

This woman is probably going through something similar with you since the majority of the other guys think her shit doesn't stink. At the same time she is still exploring other options, and if you put too much attention on her it should kill what ever attraction she already has.

Do like others have said and go get other women. Try to set up a date any time you contact her, and don't just contact her to contact her. Just warm her up and get her in a good mood then Come down light a bolt of lightning with the date idea, and end the interaction.
This girl was really into me.i remember before our first date i told her that i wanted to meet after days.she insisted we meet after three days.heavy kino on the date but i did not f-close.even after we fought she blocked me on facebook then unblocked me three days later lol.she would still text back but stopped initiating contact.before we used to joke and flirt a lot.if i meet up i am sure i can seal the deal because some of the most awesome sex i ever had came from chicks i talked shit to.i just say sorry in an emotional manner like a sociopath lol.But my question is how would i make her comfortable enough to meet up? she obviously seem hurt and is not flirting anymore?
You blew it. She's not interested anymore (women can lose interest quite fast and once its gone its gone).

Move on dude, you're embarrassing yourself.


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i have come a long way in this pua journey but sometimes i can't help into habits that i dread.i find myself getting jealous at times.there is a HB10 i met online number closed,went on a date and it went downhill from there we fought and really it turned ugly.i even insulted her called her a whore(not cool i know) she shut me out i apologized she said she is cool but she has completely shut down.she does not engage me that much nowadays so lately i gave her number to my friend because it is kinda a dead end for me and so he talked to her and she wants to meet him.i froze her out re-engaged her last week.i fluffed for a while and asked to meet her.she said "she would think about it" what does that mean? is she politely turning me down.anyway the same day i asked her out which is this saturday is the same day she wants to meet my friend and i have a gut feeling she would flake on me and go with him and i cannot stop feeling a little bit of jealousy..how do i get rid of this emotion? i hate getting jealous.sorry. for the long post.
You fought a girl on a date an called her a whore? This sounds like on a first date also. You have other problems not just jealousy you need to address. As for jealousy, you can't get over it most likely. You just have to learn to accept it and learn how to manage it. Most guys I know who say they "don't get jealous" are either lying or just don't care about the girl in question that much.

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I find jealousy is always pointed upwards. I mean you won't be jealous of the bum on the streets, even though he probably has more freedom than you. It's just a sign that you don't feel like you are on the right track. Accepting jealousy is not a good thing and I don't recommend it. I recommend using it as a guide post when you feel jealous that means there is something you aren't satisfied with in your own life. You need to take the steps to get satisfied. Then the jealousy disappears until you find something else you aren't satisfied with.

I honestly think your jelousy is due not to the woman, but your lack of options. Plus you have studied how to get women: your buddy hasn't I take it? You feel like you deserve her over him because of your dedication to this craft. These could be to causes for the symptom of jealousy you experience. Go get more women.

For the girl, if she has a damaged relationship with you, and she has 0 attraction you need to chalk that one up and just learn the lesson. If she will respond to a fun playful message which will lead into the meet up request then great. I honestly don't know why you would schedule your date the same day as your friend did. That seemed pretty stupid, like you were trying to make her choose or something. Why not the day before, or the day after? And if you tell me she picked the date, then yes she will flake on you. Leave her be and go get other women.

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There is NO way to get rid of jealousy. Its a natural human emotion. Is a result of attachment.

But there is a way to deal with it.

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Adopt the right mindsets.

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yeah i should probably just delete her number but why i never did before is that i really gamed her well before shit went bad.plus she never deleted my number even months after we stopped talking which is unusual for a girl i fight.most girls delete my number if we fight and forget about me.she did not which made me think that maybe she needed a little bit more comfort.i could be totally wrong.anyway last time we talked i asked to meet her and she said "she would think about it" i don't know what the fuck that means.


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I don't get why you are fighting girls in the first place. whats with this "for the girls I fight" line like this is common practice for you. Are are you getting into arguments with women you are trying to seduce. I wouldn't use this as a tool of seductions because it seems like a hit or miss strategy, not something to be used as a skill.

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girls won't do anything for you if you view them as a "whore/slut/etc" they need to feel like you view them as high value, work on that aspect of your life please. Don't go passing your views as fact, you are meaningless.

on your main issue of jealous that is easily solved by having lots of women in your life. Learn to value women and then work on having lots of different woman in your life, suddenly that one girl is no longer that great.....


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This only holds true for half of the women you meet.

Half of them actually get turned on by you not caring about them in the least.

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