So here is the info..

I met this really cool chick around in November. Long story short we couldn't go out for a date for a while because of different schedules with school or whatever. We finally get to go out on a date in December. The date went great. Crazy chemistry, similar interest, kino, escalation first night. Everything besides sleeping together. Then winter break comes around and we spend about a month apart.

During this month, we are texting almost everyday. Sometimes I initiate, some times she initiates everything is going well. We don't get to see each other over break because of schedules and lack of transportation, even though we had planned to. This whole time she is constantly telling me how much she likes me, how confident I am, essentially stroking my ego. Im honest with her let her know I'm into her too or whatever.

Then after new years eve, this girl goes completely silent. She starts to create some distance out of nowhere. This lasts for about a week, until I ask her if everything is okay.. She tells me that she has had a weird break and that she has been hanging out with her ex boyfriend (of 7 years). But she lets me know that she's sorry if she made it seem like it was me. I tell her no worries, and that I am excited for our date the following weekend. She responds positively.

Then come the following week I text her to confirm reservations at a restaurant and she is telling me she is feeling sick. Kinda fed up at this point, I ask her if she still wants to do this or does she want some space. She responds with she doesnt know how ready she is to be dating because she is confused with her feeling about her ex and that she doesnt want to drag me into the situation and leave me as collateral damage. I tell her that I'm confident in whats going on between us and I'm not really looking for anything serious. She responds with now that everything is out on the table, lets go. I accept.

Friday comes along and she is still saying she is sick even though she went out the night before. I am over at this point and tell her lets just cancel, and that she has my number and she can reschedule when she sees fit. This would have went well but, I initiated contact the following week. Nothing serious, just talking about bullshit, building attraction. Then that night I ask her out again and she says she's not ready to go out, or date, or hook up. But she isn't reluctant to hang out with me. I tell her that I am not opposed to hanging out but I want her to know I don't see her as a friend, and I'm not going to. I tell her I'm not entering a friend zone with her, which she replies, you are not in a friend zone you are kind of free floating in the middle.

So, I try and hang out with her that weekend when she was near my university and she tells me she is too busy with school and she cant, even though she is literally 200 ft from my front door at a friends house. I tell her i tried and that was the end of the convo. This was two weeks ago from which I have been going absolutely no contact, in order to give her space, and kinda fix whatever the hell the problem was. Idk if i came off as needy at some point. I did tell her that I was into her, but only after she made her feelings known first.

My question is.. Do I have a play here? Do I maintain no contact until she initiates or should I call her in a month and ask her to lunch? Tryna win this one here.. any pointers?

I'd say let it go man. You gave it a go but looks like she is still hung up on the ex and its made you chase it too much.

My advice would be to just not contact her at all and move on to the next one. She will probably get in touch with you after a while asking why you haven't been talking to her, to this just say "i told you how i felt and i let you know I'm not getting into the friend zone with you, the chance was there, I'm not waiting around for you to make up your mind".

Saying something like this will show her you're not needy and give you a chance of getting a real shot with her.

Other than that, well theres plenty more where she came from man.

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Yea, thats what I'm saying, I started chasing after that point. Its been almost two weeks since that happened, and neither of us has tried to contact each other, other than her tagging me in a picture on Instagram (in which I didn't respond).

I want to let this one go, and not get hung up on the situation, but I saw something here. You don't think if I just continue no contact, I cant reinitiate contact in about a month, and rebuild attraction?

i dont think she bought into your claim that you werent up to anything serious and probably tested you along the way to prove her suspicion..

"I tell her that I'm confident in whats going on between us and I'm not really looking for anything serious. "

thats a contradiction in itself.

Then that night I ask her out again and she says she's not ready to go out, or date, or hook up.

she didnt buy it.

first ask yourself what you really want. if its something serious, move on. if not, go silent and should she initiate contact again take your time in answering, build up attraction whilst maintaining a clear sexual and not an emotional frame.