Here's my current situation-

I had my wisdom teeth pulled out last thursday and I've been stuck on the couch since. In my boredom, I decided to go balls to the wall on Okcupid, PoF, and Tinder nearly around the clock. I've connected with a ton of girls, some of them truly hot. I have at least 30 phone numbers of girls I've been texting from this online surge.

The problem? I feel like I'm never going to meet a single one of them and the opportunity is going to pass me by. As we know, online girls are incredibly flakey. It's why I try to meet them within a day or two of talking and secure the sex within 1-3 dates because they are so flippant. They are getting many other offers online daily and most of them eventually settle into toying with a bunch of AFCs rather than getting played themselves.

The issue is that my mouth is currently still swollen and stitched up on the inside. I would imagine my breath is probably nasty as well given the healing process. so I'm in no shape to make out with any girls for at least the remainder of this week.

So I'm stuck texting all of these girls, trying to juggle their interest without playing too much Dr. Phil.

How would you recommend I go about this? I realize I won't be meeting all of them, or even most of them. But I'm going to be massively disappointed if I don't capitalize here. My text game really isn't great because I usually pressure girls for the meetup right away and then escalate.

A handful of them have already agreed to meet up with me. I have a date planned for tomorrow, wednesday, and thursday. I have little confidence that any of them will end up happening though. Generally, when I plan out dates in advance like this, the girl just straight up doesn't respond on the day of and then hits me with a horrible excuse a day or two later and we never actually meet up.

How should I be playing this? Just general "check in" texts every few days and then a "retention statement" like, "Can't wait for tonight! See you at 8 at -place-!"? I fear that by doing this by the time the date rolls around the girl will be bored and won't want to leave her comfort zone to meet.

I could also just blow up their phones all day long by trying to retain their interest. But the more texts we exchange, the more opportunity there is for me to misstep and lose the interest.

And then I could just go totally cold for a week and text them out of the blue hoping to set something up, but by then they will certainly have forgotten why they gave me their number and who I am, and will be extremely unlikely to oblige to a meet up.

Assuming I do meet a few of them this week I know I'll have to take it easy because of my mouth, while still seeming fun, outgoing, and attractive. The swelling should be mostly gone by then but as I said i won't be able to confidently swap spit. That's more uncharted territory for me: creating a sexual frame when I know I can't have sex or even make out with the girl. But I don't want to draw attention to that fact because it will just paint me in a negative light.

I'm sitting on a goldmine of hotties here, help me to at least secure a few shags! Thanks

This is why I always pick up the phone and call girls man. One solid 45-60min phone conversation connecting verbally with a girl will have her chasing you for weeks. When I did an online binge and came away with numbers like yourself I ended up calling 5 girls a night for a hour each until I had gotten through most of the numbers. I practically had 80% of those girls calling/texting me asking when and if we could meet up. Some I would just invite over to my place and others I would just go out with.

So i know your condition, but if its at all possible to begin calling girls and having those conversations I would STRONGLY recommend it. The shit works.

Second.. you can do this again man. You're only going to get better with the whole online dating thing; so you'll be able to spend less time on it while extracting more numbers. Just see it like that.. If none of these chicks work out, you'll take the experience and upgrade in the online dating skills you acquired during the binge. As you have already seen, online dating is easy as hell. Its almost awful how simple it is.

Now unlike you, i haven't been flaked on with a girl i've met online in a long time. Thats because i focus on building that connection through the phone conversations. Good men are hard to come by, so when they finely speak to a man thats worth it; they don't want to let them go. Of course attractive men come everyday, smart men come everyday, but genuinely good men - leaders, men of power, self awareness, and presence are hard to come by. So when I talk to a chick, I'm always sub communicating the reality that she'll probably never meet another guy like me again. Because its true.

So for now just focus on your development. This game is about improving yourself as a person more than it is about getting laid with a bunch of hot girls. You want to be the guy hot women want to chase because you're special, and less of the guy that has to chase hot women. Chasing girls gets exhausting.. I'd rather not do it unless I have to.

Let me know if I answered your question.

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Thanks for the reply! I'm not new to online dating and I know there will always be more opportunities. It's just that this big surge of girls is unlike anything I've seen in the past so I want to make sure I don't shoot myself in the foot.

Here's one singular example: I started talking to girl A two days ago. We texted back and forth about some generic crap and a little witty banter. Then I mentioned that we should meet up sometime this week and she said "Sure, how about Thursday?" to which I said "Thursday sounds great." And that was that.

All logic points to the fact that I will meet this girl on Thursday. She suggested it, I accepted, and she hasn't yet come up with any excuses or made any attempt to dodge the date. Yet, if I had to guess I would imagine that she's going to flake. It's kind of maddening when you think about it. And what am I supposed to do? Call her on the phone? I'm glad that talking on the phone works for you, but my age range of girls (21-25) finds phone conversation creepy and uncomfortable and communicates exclusively though texting. If I called her, she probably just wouldn't pick up and would then stop responding to me.

What I'll probably do is text her Wednesday setting in the the time and place for thursday, and then text a few hours before on thursday confirming that I will be there. Is there a betterwayto retain these girls?

Well with all due respect I think thats bullshit and just some excuse thats your mind is giving you so you don't have to call. I live in New York City and the majority of the women that I date are between the ages of 21-25 and I talk to girls on the phone every single night. If talking on the phone is creepy, meeting some random stranger on the internet that you've only sent a few texts to isn't? lol Give me a break.

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Your not getting any investment because your not building enough attraction. I never use a phone and I have very few flakes and my contact to date ratio is pretty good. I suspect your problem is how you are communicating with these girls and not demonstrating enough value to really entice them to do anything but waste your time for the attention.