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Ok so I personally have this belief, that it lowers your value any time you show interest to a girl. Because ideally i should show interest to a higher value girl than the one that I'm interested in, no matter how high value she is. But I also think that not showing interest is a sign of low confidence. I don't know what to do. How do you guys show interest? Do you really have to qualify her?
When the girl has a flattered look and she is blushing and flirting because you selected her to speak with, it will remove any doubt as to whether it lowers your value to show interest. If you go up to a girl with a disinterested vibe, make no mistake she will send that vibe right back to you because women are mirrors.
On qualifying, the fact that you are having a little conversation with the girl to see if she's cool is enough qualification. You don't need to get her to jump thru all these hoops like "but wait, how good are you at X" etc. in order for her to reciprocate your interest.
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If I just give a subtle sign of interest, like teasing her or smiling at her. Would it come off as confident? Or needy? Would it be best to give a more concrete sign, but still give her the idea that I can do without her?
The mere fact that you are interacting w/ her and chose to talk to her shows you are possibly interested. Add in nonverbal cues such as your piercing eye contact and light kino and comfortable vibe, all socially calibrated, and it shows you are most likely interested.
As far as giving her the idea that you can do without her, your aloof, carefree normal way of being is proof enough of this.
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