Backstory:

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Now I'm reducing contact, partially to game her, partially to forget her. She is going the extra mile to keep me around as a an orbiter. Last evening she sent me a fb message. I did not answer right away, then forgot and went to sleep. Today I recieved tis: "Are you holding that much of a grudge that you leave me talking alone?"

Me: "Wow, I'm not holding a grudge. I fell asleep. I was just checking what came in during the night and was going to answer you shortly. I was the one who texted you last time, remember? Would I do that if I was holding a grudge?"

She "You changed your behaviour towards me -.-"

What now? Do I play aloof or grab the bull by the horns and say something like "of course I did. You rejected me. Do you honestly think nothing would change?"

I really think you need to hear this: SHE DUMPED YOU TO FUCK ANOTHER GUY.

You owe her nothing. Not a response, not an apology... Nothing.

Best thing you can do is delete all traces of her, block her number, and start gaming other girls.

As Charles said your best move is to have no contact. I have found two interesting and unexpected reasons for this after a lot of experience over time.

1. Even though you can make a logical argument that it's best to keep pinging her as long shot tactic the problem is emotional investment. You care too much about this chick so playing some long shot-orbiter strategy isn't worth the toll it is going to take on your emotional health whilst you are so invested. It is going to retard your ability to move on and get other chicks.

2. The only successful way Ive found to fuck an ex you actually were in love with is not to give a fuck about fucking her. Once you truly pull a Dante and renounce all hope, you actually have a chance of fucking her at some future date when her logistics change. Of course this assumes you don't make a complete fool of yourself which is exactly is what most love sick guys do.

You explained yourself... Why?

What made you feel like you had to?

Thats complete friend zone behavior.

You're not going to get a girl until you shift the energy you are feeling from her. She is leading you. All she needs to do is play victim and you'll come running to her rescue.

I didn't read the backstory, but its pretty clear that she doesn't see you as a sexual option and this post makes that clear. She said one little thing, and you spent two long sentences explaining yourself.

""Are you holding that much of a grudge that you leave me talking alone?"" - I wouldn't of responded. She's being manipulative. You didn't leave her anything.. She left her there. You went to live your life.

Now if i did respond like you did and she said ""You changed your behaviour towards me -.-"

I'd say " you're crazy"

And leave her guessing.. I wouldn't reply anything else after that until she invests a bit more. But like i tell every guy on this forum. You have to be willing to lose the girl to get the girl. Some risk, some potential " this could ruin my chances" move comes with every seduction. You can't be too afraid to take that risk and potentially lose the girl to get her.

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Well, sometimes that's it, you just reach the end of the line. Time to move on and try to forget.

Thanks everyone.