My sticking point is more of a probability matrix. The 3 stages I tend to fall at are in mid-game (connection), taking action (I can fuck you all the time mindset), and sexual tension.

I have been spending a lot of time reflecting, reading, getting my ass kicked and mind expanded on the chatroom, and have otherwise been internalizing the solutions. But there remain some issues and inconsistencies.

Connecting: It is said not to think about what the girl would like (alpha), but to not come off as weird. For those having trouble and thus consequentially thinking ourselves as weird, this would appear contradictory. I have a scientific mind and think about it much, but don't talk about the science of the ear or the face...or whatever, or you'll come off as weird. The response is most likely "how" you come off, but these are still thoughts...

Sexual Tension and Taking Action:

I didn't really like being touched as a kid, and my sense of empathy went like this: "If touching me for no reason is crossing the line for me, why would I do that to someone else?"

While I am past this and understand that girls like to be touched in comfort and other contexts, the impact of it still remains...crossing that mental barrier to go ahead with touch, whether amidst sexual tension or not (even if she touched first). Other than "making the jump", any methods for getting over this? Maybe roll around in mud or something? lol

Lastly, I'd also come to the realization that because of some physical intimacy hangups, I get intimidated by sexual tension. I'd recently broke the touch barrier, but in a pathetic "hey, friend" type of manner.

Thats my contribution to this topic.

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Hey man!

I'm not 100% sure I got my head around the connecting part but I'll take a stab at what you're getting at. To really connect your biggest asset is going to be finding common ground, something you both are interested in, you may find something you're really into that wouldn't expect her to be into and be able to relate it back somehow. Odds on most girls are into travel, fashion, movies etc. Something you may really want to look into though is chick crack - all those tests like the cube, Mystery's ESP number routine, Style's best friends test, which part of the brain you access when answering a question (eye patterns) and some really cool questions i saw on this site like if you could go back in time to your 18 year old self and talk to them for 15 mins what would you say? A friend and i were recently discussing it at work when a female friend wanted to play some of them....she couldn't get enough of it man she wanted more and more. Girls love those tests because it's about them and everyone's favorite topic is themselves.

In terms of sexual tension it can be hard when you've grown up with that tendency but just remember Men and Women were MADE TO BE TOGETHER, it's the most natural thing in this world, it's only because we're hardwired to feel fear that we're not always together. You need to remember that the female body is also made more for sex than ours, they enjoy it much more so naturally they would want it more it's just harder for them to give it up than ourselves. next time your with a girl though remember this, make sure you're using kino when you're laughing at something touch her forearm which releases a love chemical. Style's evolution phase shift could also be very useful for escalating and creating that physical intimacy!

All the best man!

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Wow, those 2 paragraphs are loaded with info and meaning. Thanks dude, I'll look into all those.

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