I'm at a point where I accadentitally friend zoned myself when a girl wanted to get with me really bad and I wouldn't because she had drinken. Then I did it again another time. Now I belivr this girl thinks I don't like her at all when in reality I really like her.

Would it completely kill the attraction if I straight up told her I was into her?

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I've never really come accross a scenerio where your best option is to tell a girl that you like her.

Why didn't you screw her the second time? I get it if you don't want to screw her because she's too drunk, but if you just keep turning a girl down, there comes a point where she'll get the hint. You might think you're being her white knight, when in reality she wants some hot drunken sex. But that's your call, because it's impossible for me to tell online what has happened.

Continue flirting, continue teasing, continue escalating. You may find that this girl is just crazy horny when she gets a little tipsy, and that might be your only option.

I'd escalate on her when she's sober, if she brings up you turning her down I'd make up a story about how you've had bad experiences screwing drunk chicks and that you aren't into that thing. She'll get the point. Maybe even wink at her and tease her "so next time we go out only have a few and you might get lucky"

I would get her alone and escalate and see where it goes. She probably likes you and you are taking it too slow. So when she gets tipsy and her inhibitions are gone she's more open to coming on to you than when she is sober. In reality it's your job to come on to her.

In my experience, don't do this.

Show her instead - with kino, escalation and taking her out.

Friends don't make out with friends. So escalate and make out with her.

Should be clear after that - if you can get there

What going to kill attraction is the neediness you are now showing because you think you're losing her.

Nothing you can say or do can really kill attraction. Its really in the energy that you give off while saying and doing the things you say and do. If you are attempting to tell the girl you like her just so you can "win her" you will crash and burn 100% of the time. It's not genuine. You're just trying to force a spark. If she friend zoned you she KNOWS you like her. She just didn't feel the KILLER in you and so she loss attraction. You didn't have sex because you didn't want to; there was a different reason and she was able to pick up on this.

If you are unable to realign your perspective emotionally with the one I'm displaying before you are going to have to let her go until you train yourself to do so with women in the future.

But to answer your question.. Theres nothing wrong with telling girls you like them. I do the shit all the time. Not because I'm trying to win them; just because its how I feel.

From my perspective and based on the emotional state you're showing her I say drop her, don't talk to her again and let her reappear if she does.

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If I've learned anything it's follow your head not your heart. Saying it will come across as needy and although it may work sometimes (rarely) it's better to have her chase you.

Similar to what breedlove said if she brings up that you turned her down say that you didn't want to take advantage of her when she was drunk (this should increase your value as a good guy) and his next line is killer about only having a few!

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I will repeat the old saying: It's not what you say that matters, it's how you say it. I know that I could deliver the line "I like you" in the right way, but the question is, can you? If you doubt that, avoid these specific words and imply it by saying something else instead, like "maybe I have been to careful with you, playing some kind of nice guy, but you know what? Fuck that! I'm not going to be the party pooper no more". Maybe that's a stupid example, but you get the point. And it is very possible to fuck things up with that too, since it's all in the delivery and not the words.

Short answer: YES

If she came onto you when drunk, she probably wanted to have sex with you - while drunk.

A lot of girls feel anxiety about sleeping with new partners and will frequently drink to feel ready to do it.

I once had one girl tell me specifically, "Your best bet to sleep with me is to get like 3 or 4 drinks in me. Then I really loosen up".

To answer your question, DO NOT tell her you have feelings for her. Telling her that will dry her like the sahara.

Show her. Touch her. Be a leader.

Agree with Pikeman

Your best bet here is to make it clear to her that you're interested in her, but not by saying "I'm interested in you". That really starts with eye contact, body language and proximity.

One thing I highly suggest is when the two of you are away from other people and she's in a good mood, compliment her ass while you're both walking. I do this with just about every girl I would even consider banging. It makes it very plain that you're not just giving her a friendly compliment like the type she gets from church ladies or her dad. Just don't do it in front of people she knows.

I've had like 2 bad reactions from that, out of hundreds of girls I've said that to. It's a lot lower risk than you'd expect.

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Don't tell her. Show her.

You can tell her too. But learn how to show a girl you like her with out words first because alot of times, what comes out of your mouth is what fucks you up. Go with what your body tells you to do.