Hey guys - i have a complicated situation going on - I am currently seeing an italian girl, she is great, 26, easy 8, great body and face, all is going well BUT i have suddenly taken a liking to this younger girl. I'm 26, she is 18, it probably wouldn't work for so many reasons but i cant get her out of my head, i don't even want to see the girl i am actually seeing anymore! I live in Oxford, she lives four hours away in Cornwall, shes a family friend which makes the age gap all the more awkward as I cant really take things any further than a friendship because it would be inappropriate. We talk but i cant invite her to see me as it would be highly inappropriate, both our parents are good friends. I think she does like me but as i cant "go there" its hard to know. Rather than a direct approach im thinking of taking a much much slower route, more of a seducer approach - always there in the background, mysterious, arouse her curiosity, and wait for a year or so (obviously ill carry on my life as normal in the meantime). To meet me you would never in a million years think i write poetry (fairly loud outgoing etc) so i might just completely switch it up - i have never sent a girl a poem but i might send her one, shes a very sweet, fairly innocent girl, break her pre conceptions and arouse curiosity.

What are your thoughts on this guys?

If you truly like this girl, consider dumping your girlfriend. Usually I would say "yeah man, go for it!" but this girl is naive, young and a family friend. I would avoid it personally, but if you must pursue her...

Add her on Facebook. Then build rapport via private message. She will feel like she knows you better. Get her number. Then suggest she comes up to Oxford for a gig or festival. Wait til there's an appropriate gig she would like. Then seduce her at the concert.

Distance and family connection will always be your issue here.

Thanks for the quick reply.
I say "seeing someone" asin shes not actually my girlfriend SPAM and don't think she ever will be. Shes by far the hottest girl i have dated so it does go to show looks isn't everything!

I already have her number and text a fair bit but like i mentioned its to complicated to kick it up a notch.
really like the gig idea, i feel that would be appropriate, thanks man.

As for now im going to linger in the background - wrote a great poem last night, think i'll send it to her.
sent it to one girl already as a trial, she was blown away ha

I wasn't sure - where would this belong, Mid-game?

I'm not big on poetry. Seems kinda gay to me.

Hence i have never sent anyone one before! - But I find it therapeutic - words are powerful, to speak in a poetic way is sometimes very useful with seduction, especially if the women are older and of high status. (Yes i know this girls younger!). Think i'll give it a try.

hahaha brilliant !

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