6hour drive between us. Talked alot online (8 weeks ) before actually meeting. She was usually the one talking to me and opening most conversations. Met 3 weeks ago at her place. Stayed for 3 days and it was great. I want to see her again but she is insecure and don't initiate contact that much anymore. This is our conversation from yesterday.

Me: am completely wrong when I tell you I have a bad feeling about this?
Her: about us?
Her: I like you, there is still so many things I wanna show you, I want us to go and travel this summer, I'm not seeing anyone else, I deleted tinder.. But... I don't know if I would spend energy on me if I were you, I can't promise anything.
Me: I don't want to pressure you. I feel I might have gotten carried away emotionally in the start. So much I wanna see and do with you, and I wish we would, and just take the rest as it comes.
Me: what I mean is that you shouldn't feel bad for the energy I spend or not. I put some unnatural pressure right there

Her: I find it difficult, and when I'm faced with it I pull back a bit
Her: I feel bad for making you spend time on me, but on the other hand I. don't want to let you go either.

Me: think about your own time instead. I have no rush, and to a certain extend I just want to do what's fun to me. If I'd join you for trips just for being with you it wouldn't have worked for me. For me it's that our activities are appealing and more so with you. That don't mean that anything is set in stone or that it's a waste of time if it don't lead to anything.
Me: what you showed me last time was cool regardless of what you and me continue as. I will have that experience no matter what.

She: that's great, I'm glad you tell me! I feel I can lower my shoulders now. There is so much I want to do with you. Just made a long list of mountains to hike, so you best get ready!

Me: sounds good! You just got to trust me when I tell you it's not a waste of time. Cause what we plan is things I want to do no matter, just for my own sake. I want you to feel secure and that you can talk to me about stuff. I won't judge your thoughts or feelings

Her: nice. I want it that way. I really like that you are so open.

Don't know what to expect or how to handle this from now on. I'm still on tinder, I got dates planned with other girls and I do a lot of activities. All of it just feels like something I do to pass time as I wait for something to happen with this girl. Both of us are in our late 20's

She might be a fun FWB when you're out her way, but you may want to look into setting your Tinder distance filter a little closer to home. a 6-hr distance between you two, when neither of you really even know what's up or if you want to be in it, isn't a wonderful recipe for a successful relationship.

I can't tell if she was trying to fade out of your life with those messages (and you pulled her back in by being very/overly accepting), or if she's bat shit crazy...

Deleted Tinder? If she deleted it FOR YOU... run.

We matched while I was in her town for a business trip, and the first month I kinda just flirted for fun with her, till we started talking about Meeting as we have a lot in common. At some point (3 weeks before we met ) she had some kinda personal breakdown and wasn't ready to meet me. She isn't really that open about herself, but she told me as much as she was having a personal breakdown type of thing. Ended up meeting after all, and she was the one inviting me. Crazy weekend doing some hiking and lots of bedroom activities.

Don't think she deleted tinder for me. I truly believe she needs some time to figure out herself and get some perspective on her life. She already have a career and good friends etc, so to me it sounds like a small depression or something. She is one year out of a 7 year relationship.

Don't really feel like trying to forget about her. I'm not stopping myself from dating or hooking up, so if she wasn't there at all I would do the same thing as I'm already doing. I just want to find the right balance when it comes to attention and communication. Enough that she still thinks of me, but not so much that It gets needy or too easy. I've tried some days of freeze out etc before with her, but usually just end up with her treating me the same way after she makes contact again. If I give attention then so does she, but then I just get scared of being friendzoned