People have come from all over Europe to this "Folk music marathon" in my city. I met a girl there, which I am really interested in. Our interactions have been positive. I've danced with her and found out a few things about her life -- including the fact that she is coming to my city again in two weeks for an audition. If she gets it, she might even move here. I think I was charming enough, but I can't say I've built any sexual attraction as it just didn't come naturally to me (I know I have to work on that).

Here's the problem: our interactions have been very short because she is always disappearing and there is a guy that is with her 99% of the time. I don't know if they are boyfriend/girlfriend, but I've seen them holding hands and I've seen her sitting on his lap. I've only talked to her when she was alone or when he was close by -- meaning that he has seen us talking a few times, but would not have been able to hear what we were saying.

Should I introduce myself to him? I think my strategy so far could be good. I am a mysterious guy she has been talking to and he might get jealous and insecure about it, which would turn her off. On the other hand, I'm afraid of appearing weird and/or lacking in confidence if I continue to avoid him.

I'm also wondering if I should ask her if he is her boyfriend. I know it's not the best way to go about showing her I'm interested, but it will do the job and maybe reveal something about her interest level. More importantly though, is that I don't want to pursue this if he is. Being cheated on was a painful fucking experience for me and I don't want to have any involvement with this kind of thing. There are plenty of single fish in the sea.

Regardless of what I decide to do I'm going to ask her for her Facebook and tell her that we should meet up when she is in my city again in two weeks.

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What would James Bond do?

I think I'm just going to assume she has a boyfriend and drop it into conversation to gauge her response. Like I could ask "how do you think your boyfriend would feel if we shared a beer?"

Seems like a good plan to me.

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What would James Bond do?

Don't mention her boyfriend.

If she wants to mention she has a boyfriend, great, if she doesn't mention it, assume it is a non-issue.

Her relationship or lack thereof is not your concern. Most attractive girls are already attached to someone in some way (whether it be "official" or not).

What I usually do to know if a girl has a bf or not is playfully telling her "stop texting your boyfriend. God, you are so rude to us/me. We are having a conversation!". Girls are always on their phone so the line is quite easy to deliver.
If she has a boyfriend she might say "haha yeah, I'm sorry, I'll be back to you in a sec" or "haha how do you know about my bf?" (to the last one you can say something along the lines "you are always on your phone. If it's not your bf it must be your mother telling you not to come back late tonight. But you didn't look angry while texting so it was your bf.").
If she doesn't have a bf she might say "haha I don't have a bf!" and you can respond like "fuckbuddy maybe? I don't care, just stop texting cause you are becoming boring" (always be playful!!).

This kind of interaction works especially well when you are alone with her and she puts out her phone and starts texting (this way, her interest is spiked again), but it also works when in group cause people there will usually nod and give you approval for what you said.

If you would actually not be so scared to show her some sexuality... you wouldn't be asking this question.

You've got a dick right? Are you embarrassed? Let her know!