So, I've known this girl for years. I am 24 and she is 22. I have been friends with her brother for some time and that is how I know her. Recently I've gone round her house to see my friend (her brother) just coz I work very near his/her house. We got close and due to her HUGE IOI's, like touching me and almost teasing me to touch her back, we ended up kissing, cuddling and touching. No sex. This happened for a second time and during that second time, she told me she was a virgin and has no experience (I could also tell this when touching). She asked me if I fancy her and I said yes. I said yes because I thought it was the right thing to say since she was new to everything. I felt it would be wrong to say no. She went down on me, she wasn't very good but she tried and she even asked me if I was mad that she wasn't that good. I said no, and said I'll teach her. We both laughed at this and just slept after just touching.

The next day I told her to come along with me as I needed to go shopping. She said no and I didn't take it as anything. She is new and shy so I wrote down my number and said to let me know if she changes her mind. I wanted to make her feel comfortable.

Because I go round to see my friend, it's like I see her without arranging anything coz I genuinely go there to hang out with my friend. (nobody knows what is happening by the way), and the third time I went over, I ended up going out with her somewhere, and when we came back, I just sat on her bed. She seemed quite closed towards me so I literally just sat on her bed messing about on my phone whilst she was on the pc. It didn't last too long, I was waiting for her to do something as I didn't want to push too much. She then said she had an appointment in the morning. I then replied that I had work and that I was going.

The next time I went round there, she seemed more closed than ever, even quite rude, and when I suggested us going out just for a drive and pick up food, she said no.

I am quite confused. Considering she's a virgin she went quite far with me, further than she's ever been, but she seems like she doesn't even want me around. She's said no twice, but came along with me in between. She's never messaged me or anything. I find it weird that a virgin would do that. Usually they would date but be reluctant in bed. She knows that I am seeing someone but not in a serious relationship. Thought to mention that to you... what the hell should I do next?

Couple things -

And I'll preface this by saying that I think you're leaving something out... from the blowjob to the silent SPAM there's a step missing... So maybe you can fill in the blank.

Here's my assessment:

1) I think the reality of the situation may have hit her and that she's been blowing her brother's friend. There's no good ending to that story... Maybe she's being proactive; because:

2) She sure doesn't sound into it anymore (and that may be due to #1), or may be something else entirely. Maybe she's seeing someone else, maybe she's interested in someone else... Maybe you should have showered before she went down on you

My advice: Back-burner her and have other women as options. Keep pushing her when she's saying 'no' repeatedly and you're just asking for an awkward situation (plus you look desperate).

First- never trust women when they tell you their sexual experience. They have very lose definitions.

Second- Sounds like she really likes you and wanted you to fall all over her. When you didn't do that. She got mad because she wasn't controlling you. Happens alot.

Just chill, go about your business. Let her know you still want her a little bit and she'll probably come around. But that will be just the first round of the relationship power stuggle.

Peyton Kane said- "All relationships are power struggles".