So i was reading around online when i came across a article on the huffington post about the song blurred lines. This article was pretty old and it talked about how sexist the song is, and how the artist are misogynist. i never really listened to the song but i listened again and thought the song was about an average guy at the club trying to seduce a girl., I read some of the comments (it was 1736 comments so i didn't read all of them) and one guy said something along the lines of "Most girls give all the signs that they want sex"

and girl replied
basically taking any responsibility out of the equation lol

so my question is do you guys ask to have sex or do you guys try to seduce a girl and smoothly go into it. cause to me ASKING seems weird. Every girl i've had sex with wanted it, i could tell by how they were all over me BUT it took work.


Plus i know of women who say no but really mean yes. (they say it in that playful no then they get closer and kiss you)

anyway do you guys ask or do you guys go straight into it

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By law, consent does not need to be explicitly verbalised. And girls do send clear signals when something is not okay... Asking is weak, and weird. That comment the girl wrote was meant for rape apologists, who say just because a girl wears a short skirt, men can assume she wants sex and therefore if she gets raped it's ultimately her fault for dressing like that. Disgusting and totally idiotic.

Anyway, when you are escalating you should be able to tell whether she's comfortable with what you're doing or not.

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Don't ever ask. Just do it.

If she says no... back off. But don't ever "ask." That's probably the least sexy thing a guy could ever do... Fucking ask... are you kidding me?!

Might as well just "ask" right off the bat... "Is it okay if I talk to you?" and just show her you're a real bitch if you wanna be that guy lol Christian Grey would never "ask"....

Don't listen to what that person said man.

I never ask, it's pointless because it'll allow the girl to say no and then what?

Escalation is fine because if the girl has a problem she can just leave. You sparked an Idea I want to ask just now. If you have a girl in your apartment and she is cool with you kissing and physically escalating (you know touching ass and what not), but then stops you at the sex part due to LMR and leaves. If she then claims you sexually assaulted her with the kissing and touching before the LMR bounce will that hold up in court?

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To give a specific example. Say you have the girl on your couch kissing and your doing your thing then when you begin fingering her she jumps off the couch runs out the door and minutes later the police are knocking on your door.

Does she have a something that would hold up in court? Like "he sexually assaulted me by sticking his finger in my pussy?" or some shit along those lines.

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I can't believe I'm about to tell this story lol

So an old buddy/coworker of mine comes up to me at work one day and says "Do you have any girls you can call for me? I need to fuck something." He was a pretty damn good looking dude (no homo) and really aggressive so even though he was an absolute creep... he was still able to get laid. So I knew that if I called a girl up... she was gonna get fucked by this dude. I'm cool with that.

I had this chick I had been hooking up with for a few weeks... Little back story about me...I'm the type of guy who will let my friends fuck a girl I'm fucking cause I like when everyone has a good time. Sex isn't about possession to me. So I called her up and told her to come meet us at Buffalo Wild Wings down the street and have a few drinks with us.

She meet us there and we invited her back to my buddy's place to "keep the party going." She came back with us and pretty much as soon as we got there and sat down... I just dropped it on her. I was tired and I really didn't want to waste any time. Plus.. I could just tell she knew what she was getting herself into and she actually liked it. So... I went for it.. I said to her...

You should let us both fuck you.

She said "Okay." and her clothes came off faster than my buddy in the kitchen even knew what was going on. He walked back into his living room and she was butt ass naked. Closing deals for my buddy... what a friend lol

We both started going to town on her. 4 hands and 2 mouths all over her...This girl looked like a goddess with 2 cocks inside of her. She was fucking loving every minute of it. One in her mouth, one in her pussy. Both in her hands. I almost wished we had a third one at one point for her because I swear... this girl couldn't get enough.

My buddy finished first. He walks away and goes into the bathroom to clean himself off. As he comes out, I've got the girl from behind and he looks at her and says "You're a fucking slut."... I was pretty pissed at the time because I was literally about to cum. Talk about a cock block...

The girl gets pissed (obviously) and shoves me off of her. Grabs her clothes and throws them half on... Storms out the door, hitting my buddy in the head with one of her heels on the way out, and sits outside waiting for a cab to come get her. We kinda just laugh it off and I figure I'll call her in the morning and tell her I'm sorry about what happened and smooth things over with her. (Not "oneitis" or whatever goofy term the POO-AH is gonna say. I like to maintain the girls in my rotation if I can. Damage control is key.)

About an hour later, we had another drink and were sitting on his balcony just bullshitting. It's like 3 am and someone starts banging on the door. We assume its her coming back because she can't get a cab to come pick her up. Nope... fucking cops. She ran and told them we raped her. They separated us and got each of our stories. Luckily everything matched up and our warning was "Be careful what you stick your dicks into next time."

Lesson learned... some girls are out for blood man. You come at them with a knife, they will fight back with a gun. Sometimes, you're gonna get yourself into some shit. Unfortunately, the chump cop that she's gonna run into down at the police station is gonna have a hard time believing your ugly mug over some cute girl, wearing a dress, crying saying that you raped her. It kinda sucks but it is what it is. Just be careful.

same thing happened to me almost exactly, except i didn't have sex with the girl.....im known for having women so i set my friend up with a girl (he was a virgin) im sitting in the room playing my xbox when he comes in looking like a new man. Then for some damn reason he got into his feelings (while looking at pictures of his crush that he was in love with) and said "can't believe i lost my virginity to a whore" she just laughed and i was like my friend's a retard....couple days later my friend called me saying i needed to bail him out, the girl said she raped him....so i had to use my last bit of money to get him out of jail....she didn't answer my calls or nothing but as soon as court date came she admitted to the whole court what happened and they just let everything go.....OFCOURSE i didn't get my money back but hey lesson learned

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Magik,

the reason that chick cried rape was to cover herself, after she got called a slut she didnt want people thinking she was a slut so it was easier to go to the cops and cry rape then constantly say rape over the fact she was just having fun. It was to protect her image more than anything. What woman dont realize though it can destroy a mans life allegations like that. Fair enough all this shit about if shes wearing a short skirt doesnt mean she wants sex - YEAH WE GET IT, but if you dressed less provactively i wouldnt think you were going to put out.

My grandad said to me years ago - The more clothes the more class. I still believe this is true ! So if a woman has more clothes the chances of me thinking im going to fuck her first time meeting are slimmer because i think shes a genuinely nice girl and wouldnt put out and i would have to date her !

But back to the point i most definitely wouldnt ask - Can we have sex now - you may aswell jst get a knife out and kill the SPAM yourself.

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