Hi, Sorry if this is the wrong place but I just want some help with something. Simply:

How do you play hard to get?

I'm really a beginner I just wondered how good of a method is it? what results can i achieve etc. I know this question is vague but if someone can help clear this out for me that be great!

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Your mileage may vary and I'm sure you might receive a bunch of pointers here on how to play hard to get.

But from my perspective, I tried all these round-a-bout methods like "play hard to get and don't let her touch you and say 'hands off the merchandise'" for way way way way too FUCKING long.

It was only when I showed the girl that I reciprocated her interest and showed my interest in fucking her that I saw consistent results. Just something to keep in mind.

So you basically went for it rather than waited for it to happen?

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Depends on the girl and circumstance...

Some girls just won't even give you the time of day if you start playing games with them.

Some will fuck right off if they think you're playing games with them.

Some will see it as a challenge.

What do all girls have in common, that are "hard to get"?

If you ask me, it's abundance. Girls act hard to get to play you along. They often have large social circles and many sexually available partners. They don't act too interested in you, and this makes you work for their attention.

How do you compete with that? Seriously?

You be the male equivalent of her. In my opinion, there is no method to being "hard to get". It's simply a matter of having other women available to you, and conveying no neediness whatsoever. When you have multiple girls you are texting or dating, you will be harder to get. Why? Because your time has now become more valuable.

Let's say a hot, new girl starts at your workplace. Because your time is spent working on the relationships that you already have, you will consciously or unconsciously show less interest. However, when you subtly make it clear that you have other women in your life, she will begin to invest into finding out who you are. She may begin to do things like checking your Facebook profile and asking other people about you. Now she's the AFC looking into your life.

If you're struggling to meet new girls, check out Johnny Berba and/or Sasha on YouTube. They have very natural game that is very easy to implement. Good luck!

Easy technique that girl stops playing hard to get is that you stop paying her attention, ignore her, don't message it, so she will start to work on getting attention back. Girls hate it when guy looses interest in her, even if he is average nerd.

Don't play hard to get. Be "hard to get"

Have a ton of girls you're talking to. Have a busy life. Have a ton of friends.

Don't just sit around waiting for a girl to call/text you and try to "play hard to get." Actually be it.

Congruence is key. People will see right through your bullshit. Especially girls.

Thank you for this. I do agree however, do you have any tips on how I can achieve this. I'm too young to go clubbing (17, 18 in my country) however I do have a few female friends but Since schools over, I'm just stuck at home, time to time, go out with mates, play the day game have some fun.

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My goal of trying to be a pretty good PUA is to make the girls WANT me rather than me wanting to easily pick them up and have fun. It maybe a huge goal but I'm sure that I can achieve that, with a lot of time. So I get it, have a lot of female friends but I'm going to be advancing in my studies hopefully by next year and in college/university, There is my only chance to make a lot of female friends, be the equivalent.

What are some basic tips to getting female friends on maybe the first day or second day etc. ? Some good tips on being a "different guy" so they don't suspect i'm another "guy"?

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Yes.

For this OP, you'll need to specialize in your sarges. If you want to bang the play hard to get type of girls, then play hard to get. If you want to bang the girls who want you to go direct, go direct.

My advice is just choose one and specialize on it until you master one. You can proceed with the other approach once you get good at going direct or playing hard to get.

Many girls don't want an upfront sarge. But still, if you approach a lot, there are also many girls who want you to go direct.

If you can master both, then it will be easier for you to switch gears and lay more women.

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Don't be the serious guy. Be the fun, happy guy, who wants to have a good time. Throw a party? In the first few days of college/uni, there is something (in England) called freshers week. That's where all new students go out and party! Make sure you're out every night. You'll make loads of friends, don't worry about it!

The 'hard to get' technique is really just about demonstrating value. This means that you want to show a girl that you are a person who is of value and a person who is "a high class reward'.

When you do this to a girl, she is naturally going to develop a stronger attraction towards you.

If you do the opposite and appear needy. She is going to see you as a person who is inferior and as a person who has very low value and low confidence. Her natural instinct will be to pull herself away from you in this scenario.

You can demonstrate that you are 'hard to get' by just limiting the amount of interest that you show in her and have a slightly smug and arrogant demeanour in your behaviour.

It is a lot more easy to pull of if you are already incredibly self confident.

Good luck!

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So basically this is for girls who want other guys attention? When they see you are "not giving the relevant" attention to them they start the try to win you and so this is the result of playing hard to get? what If it's a casual chick and I want to get her attention? want her to fall for me? Sorry i know i feel like I'm jumping into a lot but maybe briefly explain?

P.S - Your name is KiwiPUA, Are you from New Zealand?

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