Hey guys,

All was going well with HB9. We were on a couple of dates, closing went smooth and we started seeing more of each other.

Saturday night she texted me quite late and wanted to meet. We were both out. I had already started texting another HB (Jo) so wasnt able to meet. Texted HB9 back but then didnt get back in touch.

Night goes well. I leave the party with Jo and right as we are getting in the taxi, a guy asks if him and his girlfriend can tag along to town. I say yes, realizing once they get in the car that the girlfriend is the best friend of HB9. Hence, I am screwed, caught going home with Jo.

I called her once yesterday, and once today no answer and no call back. She's ignoring me.

Background: Me and HB9 have only seen each other for a couple of weeks. She had explicitly told my buddy that she had just got out of a relationship, didnt want anything serious but enjoyed seeing me. IE - I took it as this being a very casual thing.

Now that she is ignoring me I realise I like her more than I thought and want to explain how I feel and how I had clearly misunderstood the relationship. I want to see her again, what do I do?


Appreciate the advice...

S

Yeah that kinda of happened to me once .I just pretended that were innocent and just sharing a cab after going with your boys . Just being a gentleman rather than driving while intoxicated it was better to grab a cab with one of my boys girl who was going across town . Play it all off CAREFREE like to the HB9 with scenario and how by chance you bumped into her friend sharing a cab

Stupid as I was I kissed Jo in the cab home...

I do not think you misunderstood the relationship at all.

If you didn't agree on an actual relationship, then you did nothing wrong here, and there's nothing to apologize for.

I would just blow her off and start fucking Jo lol !

Jo was willing to put out and didnt tell your mate she didnt want anything serious

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Makes no sense that she would be upset, but she appears to be. Oh well. She herself said she wants to keep things casual.

This Is a common dilema I tend to face. Because in some cases, hooking up with another girl will make HB9 like you more but in some other cases it will go south.
Lets say you are in a dance club with a girl you ve been seeing, nothing serious, you do like her, and some other chick comes, would you kiss close her? I have the feeling that if you dont, the girl you are seeing would look down on you, like you are her only option
So, in a nutshell, how do you know if the girl you are seeing sees you or learns that you are with other women will:
1-spark her interest for you and make her want you more and chase you
2- dont wanna see you anymore since you are yoo much of don juan, what happened in this case
I feel that there is no universal correct answer for this, that it depends on each girl.
Some girls may react one way, others differently... But how do you determine how will she react, gauging what kinda girl she is?

I agree with you 100%.
I really don't know that there is any way to predetermine this until the move is made.

Therefore the best middle ground is IMO to let her know implicitly that you are a man in demand (she can usually tell by how you carry yourself in a non arrogant but confident fashion) without actually pulling other girls in front of her.