This has been happening to me a lot lately, and I'm wondering if you guys have seen this..

IT'S DRIVING ME FUCKING CRAZY BECAUSE EVERY GIRL IS DOING IT EXACTLY THE SAME WAY!!!!!

1. You schedule a first date with a girl. All is well; you're looking forward to meeting her and getting to know her.

2. She cancels on you either same-day, or at-worst (my case every time) within an hour of your date.

3. You play it off as cool and no problem. You've got other stuff to do and groups of people fiending for your attention, as a real man should....right? Aren't you that guy in high school holding a stack of year books given to you by mostly hot girls to sign?

4. You text her a day later about a reschedule. No response, although, when you were texting, you would hear back immediately.

5. You give it a day or so; (she may be busy!), still hear nothing, then txt her if everything' alright. (no response)

6. A day or so later you send a "cutting all ties" type message. (eg. "That's a pretty crappy way to treat people; if you weren't interested or suddenly weren't feeling it, you simply could've said so, rather than cancelling within the hour (when I cancelled and moved lots of stuff around just to meet up with you), then disappearing and not even giving a reschedule the time of day.))

7. IMMEDIATELY AFTER, I mean 5 minutes later, you get from the girl "Wow! My phone has been dead for a week, and I just now got all of your messages all at the same time! You've got issues!"

BULL FUCKING SHIT!!! No reasonably attractive girl has a cell phone dead for a week. She's got her mom calling her, sisters, cousins, girlfriends, orbiters...

One girl I had asked for a reschedule by txt, got no response, so deleted the conversation from my iPhone.

I then sent the write-off message through the dating site, with the caveat:

"And I'm 99% sure you're going to write back with a 'wow..phone dead...just now got everything...you've got issues', etc. etc.

Well, five minutes later, I get by txt: "How does Wednesday or Friday evening work for you?" followed by an immediate: "Oh wait, I just saw your message on the dating site; I didn't know this was an urgent reschedule. Best of luck!"

Guys, this kind of shit makes me want to bash my fucking head against the wall!!!

"Oh yeah, she would've txted you about that reschedule; you were just impatient." Are you shitting me??!!

Have you guys seen girls do this too?

I'm getting the idea that from a female perspective, I would hear, "Well, I was too much of a coward to tell him that I didn't want to invite him into my life, so I just decided to disappear.

Sure he followed up, but I could always fall back on out-of-town aunt's illness; what I was really waiting for was that angry txt that gave me cause to shut the door, then I could say:

'Wow [I'm a hot girl and] my phone has been dead for two weeks and just got it fixed, and also just saw all of your messages right now (two minutes after you sent the angry one). You've got issues. You shouldn't be with a girl, etc etc.'"

That's plausible deniability if I ever heard of it....

Seen this before? -- Because I want to take a sledge hammer to my head over this shit!!!

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man, you are making something wrong, becouse if this happend with all the girls you met, its for something, you are making wrong your text game or your approach, read the basics, the game, the sex code, the method, and look what are you making wrong, change that and see the results.

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None of that's new to me. Again. I get dates.

And the ones that cancel pull that shit every time. Disappear and don't respond to a friendly checkup on status or asking about a reschedule. It's only when you send the frustrated one calling her out for treating people rudely that you get the immediate response claiming the phone was dead for a week and she just now got all of your messages.

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Are you meeting in real life, or online?

I have rarely had flakes from meeting in person, but I don't spam approach, or take just numbers, I only set up dates(unless she seems legit busy for a few days and agrees to a date later in the week at unspecified time).

I've never tried online at all.
I've also never bothered sending angry "Fuck you and your little dog" texts, either.

But what you're describing sounds very odd. Though I honestly can't figure out the point of the angry text either. Is it intended to get her to chase or something?

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Locking this topic as it's a duplicate thread (in the same location even - PUA lounge...)

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