Right... I'm in a really shitty situation here but it's not pua related. I think my relationship with my parents is holding me back. My dad yells at me for every problem that nature puts in front of us for apparent cosmic reasons and i consider myself a very solid person. But he manages to break me down in every ducking fight we have. I'm firstborn and about to get into a family business that is not at its best point. I graduate from University in two weeks and I feel like cap because everything I've built seems to be cap for him. He treats my mom and my sister like shit and now I'm at the point where I want to fulfill my role as a son and try to lift our business up or go my own way finding happiness and self development.
Please give some thoughts to make sense out of this and make a decision. I'm aware that anything I do at this point will open very different roads for me.

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Take a long think.

Do what makes YOU happy. That's all there is to it.

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You have no obligation to be miserable for the sake of your father, that's for sure. Either confront him about it, or get the fuck out of there.

Take the alpha role in the family and lay him out.

Just kidding dont do that.

can you not reason with him and talk to him about the way he treats everyone ? would it not be better for all of your family to confront him about his actions.

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I'm not sure what part of the world you're in and how important family customs, values and that family business are, so it's tough to give you actual advice about something like this...

I would echo Pebble's statement though, do what makes you happy... you only live once, man... Don't be 50 yrs old and wishing you did something else.

sounds like you are a loser like your father. think about changing that.

Thx everyone, the good and bad. I sent my CV to a consulting company, which is what a I wanted to do in the first place.
Leaving the dad problem for a face to face confrontation since we don't live in the same place and we won't.
I was really frustrated at the moment I wrote the post but it did help a lot to let it out there.

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You need to start negging your dad. His bitch shield is too high.

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Buddy of mine had this problem. He did not get along well with his parents or their beliefs, and all the while he was pressured into the family business. He ended up joining the military and has (after several shitty deployments) managed to become self dependent and is now about to finish college. He made himself independent and has the entire world ahead of him.

The military may or may not be the right choice, but I think you need to undertake your own journey in life to figure out what YOU actually want out of life.

If you're graduating from college you're probably young, you've got time to be broke and to try things that might not work out. Don't go throwing your life away but don't be afraid to go out on a limb either.

"Everyone does the best they can with the resources available to them." How your dad is acting is all about him and nothing about you, so make sure you don't feel like you are any less than a person. It's just what he knows. He's doing what he thinks is right, and he probably thinks how he is acting will be helpful to you in the long run. As stated above, don't work to please him, work to please yourself.

I also noticed you said, I could be wrong, but it seems like you don't really want to follow this business and instead follow your own path, and if that's the case, i HIGHLY recommend you follow that path.

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asking for advice on daddy issues on internet isn't going to solve anything.
I think you need to realise some stuff.
You are the only person on the entire planet responsible for your own happiness.
You are the one responsible for letting those things affect you.

what you should really do is to consult a psychiatrist. clearly you have something wrong with you. it isn't normal or healthy to let other people mess with you so much. not even your parents.

lol go see a psychiatrist because your parents give you shit ? hahah if every single person done this whose parents gave them shit psychiatrists would be cued out the door.

Grow a set of balls and make yourself happy thats the breakdown of this full thread. Dont be anyones bitch tool to take their own shit out on.

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I tend to agree with you but if someone goes to the point of making a thread over daddy issues on a pua forum I find that kinda severe. Doesn't hurt to consult a professional. Maybe there's some things we don't know.

Your answer has been the most relevant.

The problem is that I do want to make myself happy, but knowing that I might be damaging the life work of the person that raised me... that troubles me, not being anyones bitch as it was understood. In the end of course I'll do what makes me happy, knowing everything I now know thanks to literature it'd be self sabotage. The issue with him going nuts is that it happens everytime something fails (anything), I'm just trying not to be that kind of person and of course I look here for help. I don't think this thread is different from any other confidence, self worth, etc thread, but its the only forum I'm member of.

And yes, saying I need a psychyatrist just for this...that would put half of the world population in an asylum.

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Everything that comes, comes to pass. Good and bad are both in constant transition, and complaining about one is about as pointless as boasting about the other.