I met a girl in September and we hit it off instantly and had such a solid chemistry, so much in common. Even from the beginning we were always 4-5 times a week and everything was perfect. This girl was perfect like a 8.5 in the looks department, chill, liked video games, and we just had such great times together. We really had a good thing going for two months than it all just imploded.

I was suspicious at first because she was SO into me and i made a mistake by developing one-itis opening up emotionally to her. Within a month we were officially together.

Things went south right after her business trip to Tampa in the beginning of November. I got frustrated (unfortunately was being needy) because she was being unresponsive on her trip. Considering we text and talk all the time (including when I was in Germany) this was out of the ordinary one night I couldn't even sleep because I thought something had happened to her. The next night i thought she was ignoring me (turns out her phone died) I waited for her to return to talk to her about this she half way apologized than countered that she was annoyed due to me missing her calls twice (one time my phone was on the charger while i was cooking the second I was napping).

The next week I made the mistake of calling her annoying because she messing with my phone (a pet peeve of mine) and put a picture of a dude in underwear which touched a nerve because she would constantly complain I didn't wear the type of underwear she liked (Sport trunks instead of boxers which i was switching too but wasn't about to just go throw out my old stuff to replace with all knew). She started crying was upset and I didn't end up seeing her until Saturday all while i was apologizing like crazy.

After this we would have these silly arguments. One time I corrected her on a random fact (she thought New England consisted of all states north of Virginia) in front of her friends for which she got SOO mad. Another time i was sharing an observation about my travels to Europe and my opinions on the pros of European culture. She called me wrong and argued with me that it wasn't that way. Perhaps I should have bit my toungue and not gotten sucked into her wanting to argue.

At this point I was getting annoyed so perhaps I didn't try to be the awesome boyfriend that i should have been. Regardless we had a great Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday thanksgiving week. Saturday was different, we were supposed to walk to the train together and the last second she got in her car driving off very rudely without saying anything. Then she blew off plans we had because she wasn't feeling good (turns out she ended up going with a co-worker to the comedy club.

Either way Sunday I only mildly heard from her at this point I thought she needed space so we didn't talk at Monday. Tuesday she said we needed to talk, I knew it was over so I met up with her. Apparently her behavior Saturday was due to her being annoyed at me about something she admitted was stupid. She claimed that she was already planning to break up with me but wanted to be honest that some Ex-Boyfriend who she broke up with earlier in the year contacted her this past Sunday. Apparently they met up and discussed things. Now she is all confused and feels like she may still have feelings for him still. She couldn't be in a relationship with me anymore because she didn't know what could be if she got back with him and that we just weren't working out. She claims they really did just re-connect and that the timing of our break up was just coincidental, but she just wanted to be honest.

Maybe it just wasn't mean to be. I know the PUA forum response will just be to go Sarge and i shouldn't have developed one-itis. In 29 years though i've never connected with a girl so quickly and so deeply. Seems crazy that it is over. I just can't figure out if I pushed her away to the point where she made her self re-available to her ex or if she was already starting to talk to him and the arguing was just her attempting to break away.

Sorry to hear this bro. It is what it is. Learn from it, move on.

You don't want to be 2nd best to her ex bf - they probably bot fucked in my opinion. She possibly did monkey branch theory since your relationship was on the demise.

Yes, PUA advice , chase more girls, rack up the numbers.

You do seem pretty needy. My ex once went out with her mates and she ended up staying in some guy's bed with him. She told me in panic that nothing happened but I just said 'I know, don't worry, not even bothered in the slightest, did you have a good night? Did your friend's get laid? '

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Developing one-itus is fine that's the point of a relationship. When you're in sarge mode is the time to watch out for one-itus.

I feel she was getting with the ex possibly as a pre-cursor to her acting cold.

It probably won't help you at the moment if I remind you that there are plenty of fish in the sea, but it's true...... Go find out and enjoy it.

Honestly this whole thing has been causing me insomnia. I wake up every night unable to sleep as my mind pours through the details of the last few weeks of our relationship. I've never been so perplexed by a break up. I'm not a guy that jumps into relationships and is generally suspicious of women up front.
We were literally inseparable and had this surreal chemistry from day one with really no major issues and if
we weren't together we at least talked on the phone every night. The one exception being her business trip to Tampa the week before the drama began when we barely talked. Something felt off but unsure if it was all in my head. I didn't make a big deal about it and waited for her to return to communicate my feelings in person.

Something just doesn't feel right that we broke up because "our personalities clashed too much, i'm too dominant, I always have to win the argument etc etc."
Would it worthwhile to straight up ask her did something happen in Tampa, were you two talking long before we broke up and or had you two recently stopped seeing each other before we started dating or was there something else going on. I think it'd just feel better in the short term to be like "this girl really is crazy" or "yeah she was getting back with her ex those last few weeks" as an explanation versus wondering "damn perhaps this was my dream girl and i fucking blew it cause i couldn't let an argument go, snapped calling her annoying, or i kept getting grumpy with her for stupid reasons.

I talked to my friend about the demise of our relationship and she thinks the girl may have some serious narcissism issues. In good news i did go sarging and made 2 # closes this weekend.