I generally have no trouble striking up a convo with a new girl, whether online or in real life. My success rate isn't very high, but I have had success with a few very attractive women. One has been my favorite by far, and I'm hoping someone here has the perfect way to get "back-in" with her.

Brief story: Met on Match, used a really good e-mail that she said was the best she'd ever read, went on dinner date that same evening. Felt like we really hit it off and she agreed to second date.

I made the mistake of taking her to a movie (Interstellar) on the 2nd date. I'm sure this is covered as being a bad idea somewhere in the PUA forums. Well, we still talked a lot and seemed to be very into each other, and she responded well to me doing the classic arm over her shoulder bit. Then things fell apart as soon as the movie ended. She briskly walked out and avoided letting me touch her. She later texted me that she felt feelings for her ex still.

Fast forward 2 weeks later, and she has viewed my profile 2 times on Match since. I've sent a couple messages (via Match, but I do have her phone #) trying to get her to consider a 3rd date. No response, but she reads them almost immediately. So, why would she still view my profile? Very confusing.

I just need advice on how to approach this situation. One brief addendum; I'm an Army officer (1LT) and she is enlisted (SSG). I've considered this being a breaking point, but it's hard to say.

So, did you even kiss her on the first date?
And what is this arm over shoulder during movie stuff? This sounds like some middle school game, lol

You ought to be building towards sex the entire time. Little steps that you go up and up. Sit next to her. Touch her. Kiss her. Touch her in clear(yet safe) sexual ways, like hand on thigh. Invite her back to your place, ALWAYS(provided she was receptive to these previous things).

If she shucks you off on any of these, then don't sweat it. It wasn't bad game, it was that she wasn't very sexually attracted to you, or just isn't sexually available.

Moving too slow is more dangerous than moving a bit too fast(provided you don't make her uncomfortable).

_________________
RSDTyler