I'd check out these forums and look for threads on how to bring it up: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/

It's been asked there a million times, so I'd search before writing a new post... but that's just me.

Jesus Christ

At what point? First text message conversation? Or don't bring it up at all until it's time to leave? I was thinking to just wait until I'm asked, or awkwardly ask to go to her place when it's time to leave the bar.

One idea I had was to pick a place near her place to meet her, but this completely goes against my usual "take them all to the same place" routine I ran in my single day. Guess I'm gonna have to evolve to get these bitches.

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I'd check out these forums and look for threads on how to bring it up: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/

It's been asked there a million times, so I'd search before writing a new post... but that's just me.[/quote]
LOL, there's a forum for everything isn't there!

I may be confused at what you think a sidechick is. How it's always been communicated to me is a woman that you continually see on the side while you have a significant other. She is above a FWB status but just below a girlfriend. So if you want her to be a sidechick, you are going to let her know that you have a girlfriend. It has to be before you get her phone number or before you try to leave to any place with her.

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Not condoning, but why not just lie to the sidechicks as well? If you love with your gf make some excuse. If you tell the sidechicks about your relationship makes it easier for them to expose you if things go sour.

You have to tell the sidechick if you're living with your girlfriend. Otherwise, she is going to wonder why she can't come to your place, spend a weekend or holidays with you, and can't meet your family.

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The definition of sidechick is universal. I was asking for a specific procedure to try and avoid common pitfalls because I assumed you had experience having a sidechick yourself, but now I understand you are speculating along with me. It sounds utterly ridiculous to meet someone, tell them you have a girlfriend, and then ask for their number all in one conversation.

Really? When I used to live with my ex, I had a sidechicks at numerous points. The question was posed to me like this:
After the conversation begins at some point it's normally asked like this:
Her: So why are you single?
Me: I never said that I was.

Then there is normally an objection from her and the response would be
Me: I understand that makes you uncomfortable

Then once I would say something to that nature, I would act like I'm losing interest by turning away from her but I'd keep talking. If she stuck around, I would start paying more attention to her again. At that point I would get her phone number, which was normally followed with another objection. I'd always counter with saying that we were vibing well together and it would be disappointing to give that up. Then I'd get the phone number. From that point I'd call her and be flirtatious set up a day to go out and it would always end at her place.

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Oh ok, gotcha. This was very helpful to put some color into the gray areas for me. My first conversations are usually so brief before I ask for the number that I just couldn't fathom fitting in a discussion about my girlfriend in my head. I see you have a good canned response for when you're asked.

So, that means if you're not asked in the first conversation, you're not telling, and just asking for the number and saving the canned response for whenever it may come up? (Texting, first date)?