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First of all, I'm REALLY genuinely curious about something.
Why did you post this in the Approaching and Opening board? You clearly stated that this is a woman you've already known her for a couple of weeks now, and it's clear that you've already spoken to her and had conversations with her.
In order to help improve the forum and its moderation overall, I would definitely be interested in dissecting the thought process that went on in your head that led to you posting this thread in the wrong board. Instead of locking/moving this thread or giving you a forum warning, I'm more interested in hearing an explanation (no apologies necessary).
Second, to address your actual topic:
Why are you assuming that she is loyal to her boyfriend just because she's nice? Literally everyone has the potential and capacity to cheat on their significant others and it has nothing to do with how nice or mean they seem to be. How nice she is should have no bearing on your calculations on the probability of your success here.
Since you've already got some kino going on, you've got a huge advantage right now. Of the 7 most effective ways to build attraction, I've found kino escalation to be the number one effective way to do it. This goes against the common belief that you need attraction before kino escalating; kino escalation actually creates MORE attraction!
Create opportunities to kino more and get to hand-holding as soon as you can. Look at her and speak to her as if the two of you have already had sex before and only the two of you are in on it like some sort of shared conspiracy.
There are lots of things you can do in terms of ramping up the attraction and the possibilities are endless. My ebook goes a lot more in-depth regarding this topic than any single forum post can provide.
When/if a boyfriend objection comes up after you try to cross whatever physical intimacy boundary she has in her mind, go with the Strawman technique and emphasize how much you value being discreet.
I was in a hurry to work, guess I wasn't paying attention! Perhaps it's possible to get moved to another category? Out of my reach and knowledge.
Anyway, the christmas party has passed, and it feels like I've gotten somewhere with this girl, but at the same time it feels like I've gotten nowhere.
We went to the same pre-party and had a few drinks and laughs. Once at the real Christmas party many tables were occupied, so we got seated next to each other, we talked a lot, fed each other food, went for many smokes. We also danced (even though I don't dance), and it felt pretty intimate. I pushed her away, made her come back to me etc, kept her close to me then pushed her away again. We went outside again for a smoke, where I blew some smoke in her face, walked up to her really close face to face and said something (can't remember what I said, perhaps I leaned in for the kiss, but I don't really remember it that way). Anyway, when we were stood so close, she said "I want to, but I can't. I have a boyfriend". I went with the "I have a gold fish-routine".
Should I have played it differently? If so, how should I have done it?
After that smoke, we went in, she was sat in my knee where I had my hand inside the back of her shirt, caressed her a bit. She took off a short while after that (she had to work the morning after).
We now keep a conversation going via text (facebook-messenger) where she also added me as a friend. (Does that really matter btw, who adds whom on facebook? Just a thought
Appreciate your time!
CHAT