Harnessing the Vulnerability of Your Masculine Essence

If you’re reading this, then you most likely identify as a heterosexual man, meaning that you are innately attracted to the feminine. This is evidence in and of itself that you are innately masculine for the most part. If you behave in more feminine ways it is most likely due to the fact that your social conditioning has caused you to suppress your masculinity in one way or another. Maybe you don’t relentlessly pursue the risky career you really want because you live in a collectivistic society that shuns anyone without a stable and secure job. Maybe you don’t stand up for yourself enough because your parents abused you. Maybe you speak way too softly because you were raised inside of a library or something.

Whatever the case may be, you’ve likely tried to just “suck it up” by trying to be more risk-taking, more assertive, or louder before out of fear because you didn’t want to admit to being weak. This is a classic story that defines the lives of many men today. They put on this bravado of fake masculinity in order to cover up their wounds and weaknesses. This is not masculinity. It’s bullshit.

You may have never even imagined this before, but being vulnerable is absolutely necessary to being true to your masculine self.

Vulnerability is not about weakness, though. It’s about openness. It’s about courage. It’s about being courageous enough to be open despite having flaws and soft spots. It’s the only way you can truly become grounded like a real man.

You see, vulnerability leads to distinguishing what parts of you are masks that only disguise themselves as “masculinity” from your real masculine essence. Vulnerability is about opening yourself up to self-criticism and the criticism that others may give you to recognize these masks. Don’t let criticism from others put you on the defensive because they may be valuable clues as to what your fake parts are.

You might think that ego and masculinity go hand-in-hand, but in truth your ego is the greatest obstacle to becoming grounded in your masculine essence. Every fake mask you have comes from your ego, so you’re going to have to put that ego away if you want to use Gender Polarity to its fullest extent.

On Being Manly

So, if we were to speak in simpler terms, the goal here is to be manly so that women can be drawn to us through the “opposites attract” principle. The thing we have to be careful about is that we don’t put on a fake manly persona, but instead to have a real, grounded sense of who we are as men, and to express our true masculine selves through our behavior.

In order to be a real man rather than adopting a fake manly caricature persona, you first have to figure out what your core values are. Fraternities and military organizations simplify things for you by making these core values very clear during pledging and training, but they run the risk of imposing some values that you as an individual might not completely resonate with. They’re very useful to join and to reflect on what your core values really are, but in the end you have to figure these things out for yourself.

Finding your core values can be a lifelong journey for some, but in order to be a man grounded in his masculine essence you should have something to work with, so make a list of what you think your core values are and start living up to them in every facet of your life, even if you decide that your list needs some modification in the future.

Using Gender Polarity

If you’re grounded in your core values and generally true to your masculine essence, that’s really all you need to take full advantage of the Gender Polarity attraction tool. You will always be exerting a masculine energy that the feminine will be naturally drawn toward. To attract the feminine with your masculinity, just be yourself and behave in ways that resonate with your core values.

More proactive ways to use Gender Polarity exist, such as “cavemanning” or “going caveman.” In the world of pickup artists, cavemanning means to put aside all of your ideas of what’s socially appropriate by getting in touch with your rough caveman side, and to shamelessly and relentlessly escalate physically/sexually. This is normally reserved for the bedroom when consent is beyond question, and it serves as a huge turn- on for women because it accesses a very primal feeling. It accentuates the fact that you are, without question, a man and it makes the woman feel like a woman.

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