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PostPosted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 9:48 pm 
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I'm not very talkative. Most of the time I'm quiet and don't say or react in any way in group conversations. Not because I'm shy but I don't have anything to say. Naturally I'm talkative only around friends (they are mostly introverts too). Of course I can force myself to make a small talk with someone if I want to. But those conversations are only time killers, not something where I invest much.
Because of this I have trouble talking with girls. I'm not emotional, I keep most of the things to myself, I never talk about feelings etc, however these are the things about which I should talk about (as I have understood by studying PUA). I'm quite bad at faking interest and I have no interest in these things. I like talking when I can gather useful information or have a laugh, however I don't find emotions and feelings useful in any way. I have been studying PUA for a couple of months and it has given me a vibe that you have to be enthusiastic, emotional, talkative - complete opposite of myself. I can't fake this. I have had girls interested in me but even then I don't have anything to say. I have used eye contact, kino escalation but I really suck with words. Because of that I fail to establish emotional connection and nothing happens. Also I don't like showing my feelings to others. Even if I like a girl, I do kino only because the girl might like it, not because I want to touch her. The game feels fake to me - like some kind of theatre where I'm supposed to play the role of someone who I'm not. However if I stay this way there is long time ahead before I get laid. I have few girls interested in me at the moment. Have no idea what to do about it. Ok I approach, make little talk and get a number. I think I could do that. But what do I do next? Never been on a date, no idea what am I supposed to be doing. From my experience girl is usually silent and lets me to lead the conversation, however I'm not enthusiastic enough to do that.

I'm quite confused at this point. Would be good to receive an advice from people who have experienced this. Thanks in advance


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 10:00 pm 
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If you don't want to change yourself, go on match and wife the first good looking girl if you get one. If you want to get laid you have to change. These posts are like someone saying I want to be ripped but want to eat crappy food and not work out. Sure, someone is going to come along with their method to help you but the real advice is you gotta get out of your comfort zone.


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Be louder.


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 23, 2014 4:38 am 
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All you literally need to do is look her dead in the eye, open with a smile, speak louder, slower, and ask open ended questions. Let her do most of the talking.

Change or you'll be removed from the gene pool. Nature is unapologetic about those that cannot adapt.

If you can't, then it's probably better you don't procreate.


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 23, 2014 6:59 am 
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Women like confidence. You don't have to say a LOT, but what you do say, say it with confidence. Nothing can replace this.

Because one is an introvert is not an excuse to not be confident.

Be excited and optimistic about the future, which will fuel your confidence.


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 23, 2014 7:00 pm 
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I'm not very talkative. Most of the time I'm quiet and don't say or react in any way in group conversations. Not because I'm shy but I don't have anything to say. Naturally I'm talkative only around friends (they are mostly introverts too). Of course I can force myself to make a small talk with someone if I want to. But those conversations are only time killers, not something where I invest much.
Because of this I have trouble talking with girls. I'm not emotional, I keep most of the things to myself, I never talk about feelings etc, however these are the things about which I should talk about (as I have understood by studying PUA). I'm quite bad at faking interest and I have no interest in these things. I like talking when I can gather useful information or have a laugh, however I don't find emotions and feelings useful in any way. I have been studying PUA for a couple of months and it has given me a vibe that you have to be enthusiastic, emotional, talkative - complete opposite of myself. I can't fake this. I have had girls interested in me but even then I don't have anything to say. I have used eye contact, kino escalation but I really suck with words. Because of that I fail to establish emotional connection and nothing happens. Also I don't like showing my feelings to others. Even if I like a girl, I do kino only because the girl might like it, not because I want to touch her. The game feels fake to me - like some kind of theatre where I'm supposed to play the role of someone who I'm not. However if I stay this way there is long time ahead before I get laid. I have few girls interested in me at the moment. Have no idea what to do about it. Ok I approach, make little talk and get a number. I think I could do that. But what do I do next? Never been on a date, no idea what am I supposed to be doing. From my experience girl is usually silent and lets me to lead the conversation, however I'm not enthusiastic enough to do that.

I'm quite confused at this point. Would be good to receive an advice from people who have experienced this. Thanks in advance
Develop an outgoing and chatty personality, and be it only "on the stage", i.e. while sarging. Can most definetly be done. Personally, I used to be an introvert as well. When I realized this, I decided to start working a job that requires me to talk to LOADS of people. And guess what? My performance in PUA also skyrocketed. Do it for yourself. Change your entire lifestyle. Keep trying. Whatever approach you take, develop your personality.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 25, 2014 6:49 pm 
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All you literally need to do is look her dead in the eye, open with a smile, speak louder, slower, and ask open ended questions. Let her do most of the talking.

Change or you'll be removed from the gene pool. Nature is unapologetic about those that cannot adapt.

If you can't, then it's probably better you don't procreate.
I have tried this. All I did was make intense eye contact and ask questions. For some reason this didn't work because girl gave short answers and didn't give me anything I could work with. But I will use this strategy again in the future, because I don't know any other that would suit me, and I will assume that it was girl's fault this time.
Btw, my voice is deep and loud. By 'quiet' personality I didn't mean that I talk quietly, but that I don't talk much.
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Women like confidence. You don't have to say a LOT, but what you do say, say it with confidence. Nothing can replace this.

Because one is an introvert is not an excuse to not be confident.

Be excited and optimistic about the future, which will fuel your confidence.
I'm confident, but that doesn't magically get me girls if I'm socially clueless.
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Develop an outgoing and chatty personality, and be it only "on the stage", i.e. while sarging. Can most definetly be done. Personally, I used to be an introvert as well. When I realized this, I decided to start working a job that requires me to talk to LOADS of people. And guess what? My performance in PUA also skyrocketed. Do it for yourself. Change your entire lifestyle. Keep trying. Whatever approach you take, develop your personality.
I want to get girls by being myself. Otherwise if I get a girl and enter relationship I will have to pretend to be someone I'm not the whole time.


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 25, 2014 7:49 pm 
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Develop an outgoing and chatty personality, and be it only "on the stage", i.e. while sarging. Can most definetly be done. Personally, I used to be an introvert as well. When I realized this, I decided to start working a job that requires me to talk to LOADS of people. And guess what? My performance in PUA also skyrocketed. Do it for yourself. Change your entire lifestyle. Keep trying. Whatever approach you take, develop your personality.
I want to get girls by being myself. Otherwise if I get a girl and enter relationship I will have to pretend to be someone I'm not the whole time.
I didn't mean you should betray your entire personality (reading back, I realize it might have sounded a bit like that). Being a bit more chatty and extroverted isn't really a deep change to your personality, but more like a skill you acquire and train. And a skill that is vital if you want to make it in this field, since without it, you will not be doing a lot of approaches. Once the girl is hooked (that is, after you approached her and you lead the conversation for a while) you can be as quiet as you want and let her lead the conversation if you so please.

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I'm not very talkative. Most of the time I'm quiet and don't say or react in any way in group conversations. Not because I'm shy but I don't have anything to say. Naturally I'm talkative only around friends (they are mostly introverts too). Of course I can force myself to make a small talk with someone if I want to. But those conversations are only time killers, not something where I invest much.
Because of this I have trouble talking with girls. I'm not emotional, I keep most of the things to myself, I never talk about feelings etc, however these are the things about which I should talk about (as I have understood by studying PUA). I'm quite bad at faking interest and I have no interest in these things. I like talking when I can gather useful information or have a laugh, however I don't find emotions and feelings useful in any way. I have been studying PUA for a couple of months and it has given me a vibe that you have to be enthusiastic, emotional, talkative - complete opposite of myself. I can't fake this. I have had girls interested in me but even then I don't have anything to say. I have used eye contact, kino escalation but I really suck with words. Because of that I fail to establish emotional connection and nothing happens. Also I don't like showing my feelings to others. Even if I like a girl, I do kino only because the girl might like it, not because I want to touch her. The game feels fake to me - like some kind of theatre where I'm supposed to play the role of someone who I'm not. However if I stay this way there is long time ahead before I get laid. I have few girls interested in me at the moment. Have no idea what to do about it. Ok I approach, make little talk and get a number. I think I could do that. But what do I do next? Never been on a date, no idea what am I supposed to be doing. From my experience girl is usually silent and lets me to lead the conversation, however I'm not enthusiastic enough to do that.

I'm quite confused at this point. Would be good to receive an advice from people who have experienced this. Thanks in advance
Watch a few James Marshall in field videos on youtube. You don't have to be loud and wild to pick up girls.

But you're going to have to work on it. Don't start worrying about what you do on a first date until you finally get a girl to say yes to a first date. String it along step by step. Don't over think it. It should be fun.


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