Am I that Ugly to not get any matches on Tinder?



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PostPosted: Fri Nov 14, 2014 11:47 pm 
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Sorry dude but ffs you look like an Hb4 yourself. You're going bald and look a bit fat. Also why are you almost about to cry in your main pic? Tell us what the HB4s who contacted you looked like and could you criticise them for us please. Thanks bro.


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 3:09 am 
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I would say the two in the white shirt seem ok (no homo).

The diving one is cool that you do that; but, doesn't look right to me.
The other one, though a nice view of a nice tropical place; is not a good shot of you...I think.

Then again, I ain't no girl to tell much.

But I agree that Tinder is very superficial where it's really 100% based on the main pic
that comes up first. She'll swipe right and than maybe check the rest later. There is
no profile though you could blurb something, but it's all based on your pic and it needs
to be good. Once she likes you then you have to message her. This matters too.
Finally, in meeting the girl you will have to at least be close to that pic less you end up
wasting time. A good sign for me, if she is really interested, she will drop you her number
and agree to meet up fairly quickly.

If it bothers you in the type of girls that are "liking" you then you need to just keep this
as a supplement and go out. Creating a life for yourself and meeting people outside the
internet.

The rest has already been said I think.

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 3:14 am 
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Reading your post, seeing your photos and reading other responses, a couple things to start off on:

1) Tinder is a woman's market, even for those who are not "models". There are a lot of guys who mass right swipe everyone. Women, OF ANY CALIBRE, learn very quickly that she can be very selective on who she right swipes on because she still is going to get bombarded with matches, and there is only so much time in the day, and conversation threads she can focus on. So the photos have to pop out and make her pause (even if ultimately left swipes you), especially because it's easy to get into an almost auto swipe left rhythm, so you want a photo that makes her stop and want to look at the other photos and read your bio.

Also realize that Tinder has very much a game format setup, so there are some people who treat it as a validation game of sorts and rarely meet. But there are some women who also are game to meet for a couple dates, or more seriously.... as long as you convey a "normal" human vibe.

2) I found some feedback provided to you a bit too harsh - losing weight, working out does not solve all issues. While you'll agree with me you that won't be taking the cover shot of any fashion or celebrity magazine, you're no hunchback of Notre Dame either. Plus women are more forgiving on physical aesthetics than men... BUT ONLY IF you exude confidence, positive vitality and seem like you can be humourous. And that for me, is where your challenge lies. You are a typical looking guy, but really none of your photos convey any kind of vitality in my opinion.

Photo #1 - a selfie, and a bad one at that. Reason? Your face seems to have a sad expression, and the dark lit photo only amplifies that. Not many people want to associate with sad people. So the first instinct in a sea of good photos and bad, any woman is going to pass on you right away - without bothering looking at your other photos.

Photo #2 - A little better - have a smile going at least. But that filter washes away a lot of the vibrant colours that would make someone pause. Plus the whole wine glass thing makes you look like you're trying too hard to be cool. Smile doesn't exactly radiate confidence.

Photo #3 - Photos with other people are good because they show you have friends (photos with other women can be quite cliche and often scream 'try hard'), but in this photo, while you two are smiling, it's very subdued and really doesn't radiate energy and exuberance. Plus it's in a bedroom rather than being out and about - not great.

Photo #4 - a good activity shot although can't even really tell it's you but worth keeping if it's one of your hobbies you love. Women who love diving will be drawn to it, so that's a plus. But not a main photo please.

Photos #5 - I like this shot personally. It's sunny, vibrant, you don't look like you're trying to hard to enjoy yourself. One look-out though is that aviator glasses can sometimes make guys look like d-bags which turns women off.

Reco: Try getting a professional to take a headshot for you, take pictures while you're out with friends - restaurants/bars/whatever, have photos of you doing something you love complete with a big ass natural grin.

With Tinder's simplicity, the key thing to remember is that a photo REALLY is worth a THOUSAND WORDS, so make your photos convey how AWESOME you feel about life.


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 3:32 am 
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Honestly, I think the best advice was:
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You're pictures aren't filled with vigor and emotion because perhaps you aren't? Tinder isn't some secret way to the top for guys that lack skills with women. Its just a cheat sheet for guys that know a bit of what they're doing. I'd encourage you to stop taking the short cut and develop yourself into someone that YOU can actually find attractive.
The reason I think this is awesome advice is because I have the same problem as you. Girls tell me I am good looking, but girls at my work say I am reserved at times and don't interact enough with people. And at times I can be reserved when I interact with them anyway, and they say I don't smile enough (which I started working on recently).

Why this applies to you, is that because while you may not look like the Grinch (I don't either), my friends who are actually butt ugly seem to fuck lots of girls on Tinder and get more matches than I do (how do ugly people get better results you might ask?).

Well, it's simple. If your pictures and your mini bio make you look like an interesting person in the split second she looks at your profile (eye catching), then chances are she will take the chance to match with you or message you.

You could be ridiculously good looking but if you look boring, then she won't be taking any chances because she has better things to do with her time.

Spice it up, maybe take a few better pictures, then tell us how you go.

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 17, 2014 3:58 pm 
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Id say get rid of that main pic, swap the one with the necklace and white shirt as your main pic (by far the best pic of you).

I don't do tinder, but I'd say of those pics that's your best line up.

But seriously dude, get on POF and chat up girls.

Go out and approach girls. Get friends that are girls and get girls who want to hang out with you and are down for sex. Your life will change when you start to see how you behave with girls once you realize that you aren't desperate anymore.


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 17, 2014 4:05 pm 
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Your personality is repulsive. "Wahhhh! Why don't they like me?! Wahhhh!"

That's all I hear dude. Fix that.


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 17, 2014 8:11 pm 
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I've had tinder for the past 3 days and I only had 7 matches which 3 of them were robots, 1 a hooker, and three with hb4s since I started to swiping right on every girl to test my theory.

It is so soul crushing. I'm told I'm a good looking guy, why the freak am I not getting matches with at least hb6 ? I showed my profile pics to a gal friend of mine, and she gave me pointers .


Still nothing

What the hell am I doing wrong?
Tinder is brutal especially in Southern California. Where are you located?

When I was in norcal or the midwest my phone was blowing up every day.


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 18, 2014 1:13 am 
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I've had tinder for the past 3 days and I only had 7 matches which 3 of them were robots, 1 a hooker, and three with hb4s since I started to swiping right on every girl to test my theory.

It is so soul crushing. I'm told I'm a good looking guy, why the freak am I not getting matches with at least hb6 ? I showed my profile pics to a gal friend of mine, and she gave me pointers .


Still nothing

What the hell am I doing wrong?
Tinder is brutal especially in Southern California. Where are you located?

When I was in norcal or the midwest my phone was blowing up every day.
I'm located in Toronto


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http://s1189.photobucket.com/user/moesk ... t=3&page=1

There are some new pics that I'm using still no results


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http://s1189.photobucket.com/user/moesk ... t=3&page=1

There are some new pics that I'm using still no results
The new scuba pic and the blowing smoke from behind the window pic are the only two pics wit any type of emotion or personality. The rest of them are working against you. You have to development more personality man.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 18, 2014 1:37 am 
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I am becoming really frustrated by this whole thing. Forget about it. Screw it. I'll delete my account in tinder and pof.
Oh, and I do go out with friends trying to get numbers n shit. I'm just so tired of getting rejected that its time for me to get a break. It has broken me into pieces and I don't even know why I'm telling u this.

Either ways, thanks for trying to help me out.


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I am becoming really frustrated by this whole thing. Forget about it. Screw it. I'll delete my account in tinder and pof.
Oh, and I do go out with friends trying to get numbers n shit. I'm just so tired of getting rejected that its time for me to get a break. It has broken me into pieces and I don't even know why I'm telling u this.

Either ways, thanks for trying to help me out.
It sounds like you're blaming sources and reasons outside of your ownself. If a man wants to develop a rock hard body and six pack - he has to work out, eat right, and endure the pain of working out for a period of time before he can see any results.

So stop crying. Thats not changing anything. You're only going to depress yourself and become less attractive than you've already shown (by your personality) than you are.

Developing a strong social body takes pain, just as developing a strong physical body does. The work has to be put in for you to see results. A man can't say " I'm sick of working out and feeing the pain. I just want the rock hard body "in what world will that manifest?

So cut it out, you're not a baby. PM me and I'll see what I can do for you.

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Your too fragile right now. See a professional like a therapist. Listen to some Anthony Robbins or something...

To be good at this, you have to go through serious amounts of rejection and pain. You're too volatile for that right now.

You need to love yourself before you can get happiness

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 4:19 am 
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I'm located in Toronto
Hey, stop crying. lol. You wanna go on street game this weekend in TO? ..it will be fun, and every rejection will make you stronger/better. And it's still better to be rejected in real life than be ignored online.


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I'm located in Toronto
Hey, stop crying. lol. You wanna go on street game this weekend in TO? ..it will be fun, and every rejection will make you stronger/better. And it's still better to be rejected in real life than be ignored online.
If I were the op i would totally take this poster up on this offer. RL is where it's at.


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