I met this really hot girl 2 weeks ago, ended up in her bed that night, kissed her and got swept away... made every mistake in the book and didn't f* her. I kinda got feelings for her...

The day after she told me that she wanted to give her ex boyfriend another chance (by now it's already the third time in 2 weeks, that I know off, they break up and start again...)
Ever since that night she has been sending me messages, all day and every day seeking my attention. Its not that she is showing direct interest in me cause its just plain talk and every time I try to go that way she shuts down.

I kinda got enough of her so I stopped responding 3 days ago.

Today I get this message:

Hej Mr Silent, are you alive?
-15min. later-
Tomorrow it's Friday!
-20 min later-
My nameeee
-20 min later-
MY NAMEEEEEE
-5 min later-
MISTER IGNORE

I was at the gym without my phone so I didnt see the messages pop up.

Can someone please tell me what the hell is wrong with this girl? She has a "relationship" (that is probably going nowhere) but still she is seeking so much attention of me. I feel she is into me but also not really really into me...
The more I see and hear of her the more crazy I think she is. The problem is that she gets me kinda upset doing like this... I clearly care.

How do I respond, I really wanna show her that I dont take this kind of shit. Or should I just ignore her?

Thx guys

" Hey cutie, I'm too busy to chat right now, I'm free Saturday night so come to my place. There will be a movie and maybe even popcorn in it for you if you play your cards right"

And then ignore her until she say "yes, I'll come over".

You can also change it up to say you can go to her place, either way. That might be better if she's truly crazy and you don't want her to know where you live.

But basically make it to where you are too busy, let her know that you don't have time to be her gay buddy she can talk to all day, that you are the guy that wants to have fun. And if she doesn't go for that, move in and get other girls.

Be thankful you were at the gym which has given you a golden opportunity to re-set the frame with this girl.

Do not answer her every time she texts, don't 'be there' for her to talk about her problems and don't talk about random stuff with her.

Let her know what you are up to, get out and meet more women and implicitly have her know you've been doing this.

The only way for her to chase is for her to see you in a new light.

Could have her agree to a meetup and then FLAKE ON HER. Tell her you can't make it at some point before the meet up.

You're pushing and you need to pull. Thankfully your non-response to the texts got her pushing a bit. Have her keep pushing for the time being while you keep pulling.

Better yet, and much easier is to just meet more girls who are down to chill.

She's just looking for attention and validation because her current relationship is fucked ! She may also be using you as a pawn to make her current guy jealous etc ive seen that done before.

Personally i wouldnt get hung up on it play it cool i wouldnt text 'hi cutie' either.
I would just be blunt and straight up. 'WOW thats a shit load of texts ! i was in the gym and then went out for dinner with a friend chill out god damn !'

She'll probably reply with an apology and asking what friend then you tell her it was a girl and she'll try and be dry with you dont rise to it and ignore her. She'll come back for more validation.

If you have feelings for a girl who has a boyfriend your asking to be hurt dude. If you really want to fuck her you have to be smart about it and not get reeled in to be used as a pawn... let me know how you go.

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Thank both you guys for the advice. Good stuff.

This is the conversation we had today;

Me: You are the stalking kind of type he

She: That was strange, I was worried

Me: Cute, thats because you are in loooove with me

She: . Are you coming to party with us tonight?

Me: No, i'm going to party tomorrow

She: Seriously? Pussy

Me: I know, parties are better when I'm around

She: Please come

Me: You'll survive

She: Then what are you going to do?

Me: I'm getting a visit

She: Oooh, which girl?

Me: Just a chick

She: NICE

End of conversation

You guys think I played this one as suggested by you?
Curious what will follow...

Grtz

Nothing wrong with this exchange. If I were you, I wouldn't have confirmed it was a girl.

She: Oooh, which girl?

Me: Why do you just assume it's a girl?

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Perfect. She is chasing and pushing. You are setting yourself up perfectly with this girl.

Well played my good sir !

I like how you played the im getting a visit card ! good move ! makes you seem in demand

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I like the suggestions the others already made: appear to be in demand and not needy for her attention. We're more attracted by the things we can't get that easily.

At the same time, you don't necessarily want to come across like a player who has a bunch of girls coming in and out of your life, so I think mentioning that you got a visitor might not be a good move. I'd keep that part vague, unless she's in for a casual relationship then it doesn't matter. But women looking for a real relationship might not appreciate your mentioning other girls. You can DHV in subtle ways, e.g. if she wants to meet up, don't make yourself too available. You got plans already for the weekend with a big group of friends, parties of your own, etc. She should feel you got something cool going on and that she would be lucky to join your world.

But don't close the door. Suggest raincheck. Another day a week later. But punish her when she flakes.

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